Boundaries are what you do to keep yourself safe, not what people do for you. You and your bf have a conflict on where to dress. When in conflict, each side should share their perspective then listen and validate the other. After that, solutions that work for BOTH are explored and then implemented. He’s not interested in even understanding your side and dismisses it. That’s not ok. And do you understand and validate his perspective? Have you discussed alternatives? As for the boundary, that’s where you set a boundary that you don’t invite people over over if they fails to work with you to find a solutions you both can be comfortable with.
You said it's over. It's over. He hasn't replied in a day. Let it go. He understood. What do you need to hear from him. Delete his contacts. Have a good Holiday.
Oh honey no, he's the gold digger. Red flag one, wouldn't discuss it with you, wanted a prenup? He knew he had nothing and had hopes of putting you on the line for his debts. Keep searching. You can do everything you want to do without a man if the clock runs out. The right person will come along, or not, just don't let yourself get used.
Since most women are capable of multiples and men are usually not, I’d say it’s usually the opposite: that the woman will have 2-3 orgasms while the man has one, and both end up satisfied because that’s how bodies work.
This guy doesn’t seem to understand how sex works, and just sounds like a big bore. Find someone else.
Grow up. You can’t be in a relationship until you’re a grown up. Many, many, stupid decisions were made and none of them by your girl.
You can’t defend her own breathalyzer because it’s ridiculous. You sir OP are ridiculous, your GF wanting to ensure she wasn’t too impaired to drive is the opposite of ridiculous.
I seriously hope you GF can take a step back and realize that a group of losers that have to drop acid together is just boys playing at bring men. They’re not men, not even close.
That's true, but if she lived nearby by this stage I'd have already gone on a date with her you know, but at the same time we've talked for over 3 months now and she's still showing signs of wanting more than just friendship so we've gotten past the 3 month rule as well
He is having what is called an emotional affair. There is lying and sneaking involved. You both need to read a book called NOT JUST FRIENDS by Shirley Glass. What he is doing will likely escalate if he keeps on crossing boundaries. Good luck to you. ❤️
“I can't handle my family being broken like this” literally sounds like she's making fun of you. Like idk it comes off like she was irritated with how difficult the death of a parent was/is for you and is almost trying to get revenge
Are you sure he doesn't have feelings for you ? If not then that is just overprotective :/ Don't need to walk every step hand in hand. Just being able to connect by what's happening in your life, seeking advices or help, or etc. should be good enough evidence that you're doing fine
That just sounds like he is taking pictures to show off to his buddies, that would be my immediate guess. It’s super red flag that he didn’t respect your wishes for him to stop.
You don’t have to convince her. Get a vasectomy or be in charge of always using a condom. If she does get pregnant, the decision will be hers. Your time is now to be sure you aren’t creating a baby. Don’t try to change her mind. Be curious about how she feels, learn to know her. It’s okay for her to feel that way. But when asked, calmly state how much you love being child free. Don’t argue, explain, or fight about it. And keep your sperm blanks or bagged up.
I don't know anyone who locks the door to their bedroom at any time but I also don't know someone who chooses to live! in a home with their boyfriend's parent despite the fact that she has annoying traits.
It is childish to accept the gift of a roof over your head at a very low rate and then to bitch about the homeowner's child.
I haven’t heard of them but I will definitely will be checking them out, thank you! I think having a counselor would help mediate. I want to make sure he knows I’m not coming from a place of judgment but from a place of hurt and love. Sometimes he gets too in his head and overthinks, that’s why I’d want a professional, to make sure he is safe from himself during the conversation. Thank you for your tips!
Exactly and what is OP meaning by she said she caught him… if she caught him doesn’t that mean he was making it painfully obvious? To many excuses for this man. And your right if OP was really to loose to feel anything he wouldn’t orgasm
I'm curious to know where would you draw the line? Your GF going for a meal with a guy friend you don't know? her going clubbing with him? her staying over at his house? Her going on vacation with him?
Remember you don't want to be seen as “insecure” or heaven forbid “possessive”.
You could break every bone in your body and he will get mad at you for not having sex with you, and make you feel like shit for not doing it bc you literally can't.
Is this really someone you want to be with, he is selfish and horrible
Oh ok. Does he have the grandiose thinking?
Boundaries are what you do to keep yourself safe, not what people do for you. You and your bf have a conflict on where to dress. When in conflict, each side should share their perspective then listen and validate the other. After that, solutions that work for BOTH are explored and then implemented. He’s not interested in even understanding your side and dismisses it. That’s not ok. And do you understand and validate his perspective? Have you discussed alternatives? As for the boundary, that’s where you set a boundary that you don’t invite people over over if they fails to work with you to find a solutions you both can be comfortable with.
You said it's over. It's over. He hasn't replied in a day. Let it go. He understood. What do you need to hear from him. Delete his contacts. Have a good Holiday.
Oh honey no, he's the gold digger. Red flag one, wouldn't discuss it with you, wanted a prenup? He knew he had nothing and had hopes of putting you on the line for his debts. Keep searching. You can do everything you want to do without a man if the clock runs out. The right person will come along, or not, just don't let yourself get used.
You need help. Serious, professional, help.
Leave these people alone. You're the only person to blame for your actions.
Please, for your own good, take a break from all social media.
If I was a dog, I would bark at your boyfriend too.
Trust your dog. He's telling you that your bf IS NOT THE MAN YOU DESERVE.
As a fur mommy, STOP MAKING EXCUSES FOR YOUR BOYFRIENDS BEHAVIOR. Be with a guy who grew up with dogs and have the patience of a Saint.
On a personal note, BREAK UP WITH HIM. ANYONE WHO ABUSES MY PETS HAVE NO PLACE IN MY HEART AND HOME.
Since most women are capable of multiples and men are usually not, I’d say it’s usually the opposite: that the woman will have 2-3 orgasms while the man has one, and both end up satisfied because that’s how bodies work.
This guy doesn’t seem to understand how sex works, and just sounds like a big bore. Find someone else.
You don’t need to be physical with someone else to cheat.
Grow up. You can’t be in a relationship until you’re a grown up. Many, many, stupid decisions were made and none of them by your girl.
You can’t defend her own breathalyzer because it’s ridiculous. You sir OP are ridiculous, your GF wanting to ensure she wasn’t too impaired to drive is the opposite of ridiculous.
I seriously hope you GF can take a step back and realize that a group of losers that have to drop acid together is just boys playing at bring men. They’re not men, not even close.
That's true, but if she lived nearby by this stage I'd have already gone on a date with her you know, but at the same time we've talked for over 3 months now and she's still showing signs of wanting more than just friendship so we've gotten past the 3 month rule as well
Yes you did. Are you really 32? You seem like you’re 18
He is having what is called an emotional affair. There is lying and sneaking involved. You both need to read a book called NOT JUST FRIENDS by Shirley Glass. What he is doing will likely escalate if he keeps on crossing boundaries. Good luck to you. ❤️
“I can't handle my family being broken like this” literally sounds like she's making fun of you. Like idk it comes off like she was irritated with how difficult the death of a parent was/is for you and is almost trying to get revenge
You both need to be having deeper conversations.
Why did you have a child with Simone who doesn’t even seem to even like you and whose family seems to despise you ??
There is no happy end for this, you made a terrible mistake
I wanted him to have his parents together as a family, something I didn’t have
Yeah well he don’t have that either
You may have I’ll-advisedly made that child together but what you described is not a family, at least not a functioning one ?
It’s a bad environment period
Break up with him and he can go back to her. Then you can find a better boyfriend.
Are you sure he doesn't have feelings for you ? If not then that is just overprotective :/ Don't need to walk every step hand in hand. Just being able to connect by what's happening in your life, seeking advices or help, or etc. should be good enough evidence that you're doing fine
That just sounds like he is taking pictures to show off to his buddies, that would be my immediate guess. It’s super red flag that he didn’t respect your wishes for him to stop.
And she didn’t feel like giving him head. Still doesn’t give him the right to make her feel bad about it.
Yeah maybe, always looking at the grass is greener in the other side of the fence.
He is probably doing it just to help them out. I wouldn't worry about that.
You are the one who brought it up??
You don’t have to convince her. Get a vasectomy or be in charge of always using a condom. If she does get pregnant, the decision will be hers. Your time is now to be sure you aren’t creating a baby. Don’t try to change her mind. Be curious about how she feels, learn to know her. It’s okay for her to feel that way. But when asked, calmly state how much you love being child free. Don’t argue, explain, or fight about it. And keep your sperm blanks or bagged up.
I don't know anyone who locks the door to their bedroom at any time but I also don't know someone who chooses to live! in a home with their boyfriend's parent despite the fact that she has annoying traits.
It is childish to accept the gift of a roof over your head at a very low rate and then to bitch about the homeowner's child.
BTW, how much are you paying per month?
I haven’t heard of them but I will definitely will be checking them out, thank you! I think having a counselor would help mediate. I want to make sure he knows I’m not coming from a place of judgment but from a place of hurt and love. Sometimes he gets too in his head and overthinks, that’s why I’d want a professional, to make sure he is safe from himself during the conversation. Thank you for your tips!
5 inches thick, what is it, a cavern?
You might love him, but do you love being cheated on?
Exactly and what is OP meaning by she said she caught him… if she caught him doesn’t that mean he was making it painfully obvious? To many excuses for this man. And your right if OP was really to loose to feel anything he wouldn’t orgasm
I'm curious to know where would you draw the line? Your GF going for a meal with a guy friend you don't know? her going clubbing with him? her staying over at his house? Her going on vacation with him?
Remember you don't want to be seen as “insecure” or heaven forbid “possessive”.
You could break every bone in your body and he will get mad at you for not having sex with you, and make you feel like shit for not doing it bc you literally can't.
Is this really someone you want to be with, he is selfish and horrible