Guess what? He’s a grown man of sound mind. You can tell him what an uninsured quadruple bypass will cost him, and he’ll lose everything except his home. Other than that, there’s exactly nothing you can do.
Never put anyone else’s name down as the financially responsible individual in any of his medical care. His debts will not pass on to you.
I know you’re more worried about his health, but it’s out of your hands. Love & accept him for who his is, and stop prodding him. Your efforts to help will just continue to upset you both.
She does but so do you. Hey don't forget that. It's scary yeah but you will meet someone that is entirely just meant for you in every way body,mind and spirit.
And you will be glad u didn't settle simply out of fear.
Be single take your time you are insanely young. If people ask not tht it's any of their business just tell them the relationship didnt work out. You wnt to focus on the next phase school ect.
Have an honest talk with her and tell her the truth. You guys can be friends still if she's willing.
But don't encourage her to see u in a way you dont see her. It's not fair on either of you. I can't imagine how uncomfortable that must be.
If after 3 years she doesn’t believe you that’s a lost cause. Without trust a relationship has no future.
You can break up first or record him secretly and then break up.
But a true partnership doesn’t require proof. If my husband said that some friend of mine said unbelievable shit I would believe him and ask my friend if they are going through something out of concern, because it would be worrying if after 20 years they were behaving so out of character.
I'm sure you already heard this but the word is Amends not amendments. It could have been a typo. No worries. Anyways, to be honest his actions show more negatively on him than your actions do on you. You tried a drug and got sick. If he can't handle that and acts like this he's not a very good boyfriend. Things happen especially when you are experimenting with illegal drugs. He needs to realize that. He shouldn't act distant because of it. It's not like you did it on purpose. Not only that but he's upset because you embarrassed him. That's selfish thinking on his part. There is really nothing you can do. I guess in the future if you are going to experiment with illegal drugs do them at home first. Sit down and have a talk with him about how he is making you feel. Maybe he's in his head too much and doesn't realize how it's affecting you. Good luck.
I’m an only child and I’ve had an amazing childhood with very involved parents! I still had/have good social skills, and I have no trouble making friends on my own. I’m just one person, but I’m seeing lots of people with siblings in the comments so I wanted to give another perspective. Your husband is TRAUMATIZED. that’s a BIG DEAL. Shouldn’t you respect his mental health? 18 months is so soon. If he just complied to appease you, that’s 23 straight months of misery for him. You’re chill with that?
Of course thats a few because he isnt friends with all of them. I work with 20 people in my office, 18 of them are female and i connect with 6 of them on a personal level so we go do things together in our free time.
Nothing wrong with that in my eyes. All i see here is a jealous gf that cant see male and females being friends without an underlying agenda.
Since you cant say it like that you go the route of ” he is hiding something”.
And regarding that one girl that was cold to you: they talk about relationships you said? think about what he might have told them. And then look at the situation again.
If you don’t want to be with him please don’t contact him again. The back and forth feeds both the anxiety loop and the fantasy loop that if he “changes” you will want to be with him again. It is normal to have second thoughts but sometimes the kindest thing you can do is cut ties.
Also being with my boyfriend has made me a better person. He encourages me to study and follow my goals, and we both make time for our friend sand keep our lives separated.
IDK that seems really healthy to me. It seems your roommate is jealous, it could be because you are spending less time with her or because you have a successful relationship and she doesn't.
To be frank, you want someone that roots for you when good things happen to you and she doesn't seem to be like that.
I feel like giving you a heads up is the opposite of trying to ruin things….maybe it’s just me but if i was trying to be petty I’d just show up and be unpleasant lol.
Have you ever cheated or has he?
Guess what? He’s a grown man of sound mind. You can tell him what an uninsured quadruple bypass will cost him, and he’ll lose everything except his home. Other than that, there’s exactly nothing you can do.
Never put anyone else’s name down as the financially responsible individual in any of his medical care. His debts will not pass on to you.
I know you’re more worried about his health, but it’s out of your hands. Love & accept him for who his is, and stop prodding him. Your efforts to help will just continue to upset you both.
She does but so do you. Hey don't forget that. It's scary yeah but you will meet someone that is entirely just meant for you in every way body,mind and spirit.
And you will be glad u didn't settle simply out of fear.
Be single take your time you are insanely young. If people ask not tht it's any of their business just tell them the relationship didnt work out. You wnt to focus on the next phase school ect.
Have an honest talk with her and tell her the truth. You guys can be friends still if she's willing.
But don't encourage her to see u in a way you dont see her. It's not fair on either of you. I can't imagine how uncomfortable that must be.
Please take care ?
That sounds like the perfect thing for couple therapy. Her paranoia is driving fights and you need sleep and focus
If after 3 years she doesn’t believe you that’s a lost cause. Without trust a relationship has no future.
You can break up first or record him secretly and then break up.
But a true partnership doesn’t require proof. If my husband said that some friend of mine said unbelievable shit I would believe him and ask my friend if they are going through something out of concern, because it would be worrying if after 20 years they were behaving so out of character.
She's your ex… Not your problem
I'm sure you already heard this but the word is Amends not amendments. It could have been a typo. No worries. Anyways, to be honest his actions show more negatively on him than your actions do on you. You tried a drug and got sick. If he can't handle that and acts like this he's not a very good boyfriend. Things happen especially when you are experimenting with illegal drugs. He needs to realize that. He shouldn't act distant because of it. It's not like you did it on purpose. Not only that but he's upset because you embarrassed him. That's selfish thinking on his part. There is really nothing you can do. I guess in the future if you are going to experiment with illegal drugs do them at home first. Sit down and have a talk with him about how he is making you feel. Maybe he's in his head too much and doesn't realize how it's affecting you. Good luck.
He’s not who you thought he was. The person you loved wasn’t real. 🙁 please, just run. This will never get better.
I’m an only child and I’ve had an amazing childhood with very involved parents! I still had/have good social skills, and I have no trouble making friends on my own. I’m just one person, but I’m seeing lots of people with siblings in the comments so I wanted to give another perspective. Your husband is TRAUMATIZED. that’s a BIG DEAL. Shouldn’t you respect his mental health? 18 months is so soon. If he just complied to appease you, that’s 23 straight months of misery for him. You’re chill with that?
Why would that be different.
Of course thats a few because he isnt friends with all of them. I work with 20 people in my office, 18 of them are female and i connect with 6 of them on a personal level so we go do things together in our free time.
Nothing wrong with that in my eyes. All i see here is a jealous gf that cant see male and females being friends without an underlying agenda.
Since you cant say it like that you go the route of ” he is hiding something”.
And regarding that one girl that was cold to you: they talk about relationships you said? think about what he might have told them. And then look at the situation again.
If you don’t want to be with him please don’t contact him again. The back and forth feeds both the anxiety loop and the fantasy loop that if he “changes” you will want to be with him again. It is normal to have second thoughts but sometimes the kindest thing you can do is cut ties.
so you can close your account, and/or go inactive and Tinder will still stalk you?
Girl get out of this. Omg.
You need to leave. He doesn't respect you. He doesn't treat you right. Respect yourself and leave
Read Why does he do that? By Lundy something, it'll show you how abusers/manipulators use therapy as a tool against you
You know you deserve better than this. You're not gonna get it while you're there
Also being with my boyfriend has made me a better person. He encourages me to study and follow my goals, and we both make time for our friend sand keep our lives separated.
IDK that seems really healthy to me. It seems your roommate is jealous, it could be because you are spending less time with her or because you have a successful relationship and she doesn't.
To be frank, you want someone that roots for you when good things happen to you and she doesn't seem to be like that.
Go for it. Even if you get rejected that will be better than wondering what would have happened.
That's pretty much right out of the abusive spouse handbook. Please look out for yourself!
I feel like giving you a heads up is the opposite of trying to ruin things….maybe it’s just me but if i was trying to be petty I’d just show up and be unpleasant lol.