6 hours is the most difficult time difference to synch with other people. My OH travels frequently for work & is regularly at thisntime.zone difference. If it's breakfast time for me, he's asleep, lunchtime for me, still asleep, breakfast time for him, I'm working, evening time for me, he's working, evening time for him, unless I stay up until stupidly late, I'm asleep. A couple of hours either way, time zone wise, makes a massive difference.
He made that promise a decade ago, and they’ve been living it every day since. It’s not like he promised ten years ago he’d buy her a car and then changed his mind. They’ve been actively doing his plan for ten years, far longer than initially intended. And now he’s “changed his mind” to thinking, you know what, since you sacrificed everything for ten years and I like that, let’s just do that forever, okay? I can’t believe you would use the fact that the promise was so long ago and as an excuse for him to blow it off, when she’s been suffering with the situation the whole time. Shameless, really.
Yes, you absolutely need to talk to Laura again about the whole thing, when you are both calm. Relationships only last if there is honest communication, if you keep something unsaid, it grows in your mind and ends up becoming resentment. Do tell her that you feel hurt that she jumped to cheating before even asking if you met a woman that morning and who was her, and if her opinion of you is that you are a potential cheater or where is she coming from. And listen to what she has to say. Clear the air. As for Lucia, when you see her, tell her “I'd appreciate that you don't fabricate gossip about me. You saw me hugging my cousin, took a picture, and created a story about it being cheating that is simply not true. Next time, ask me instead of spreading things about me that are simply not true”
Yeah the frog thing could have been innocuous, but this comment is the one that really disturbed me. Yes frogs are adorable, but OP may have buried the lede.
Maybe this guy is a dumbass, or maybe he wants to hurt her self-esteem. We don’t really have enough info to determine that.
But regardless, this specific little comment is pretty gross and I can’t imagine in what context it wouldn’t be.
For one, it's not the age gap, it's a maturity gap. For two, you should probably separate as fast as you can. She sounds like the type of person that will soon be bringing home new guys, not to hurt you but because you don't register anymore. Don't hurt yourself living through that.
I'm not yo-yo, so I don't generally stick with wishy-washy people…. It'd depend on the actual reason why he changed his mind over the course of 4 days.. I would have a very hot time believing he worked on himself enough to be ready for a relationship over the course of 4 days.
Hi sea, how are you doing now? ?
Still doesn't excuse abuse.
Get out of this circus. These are not your monkeys.
You need psychotherapy; you're behaving abusively because of your insecurities, and you need help managing them without being an asshole.
Just wait until her asks for your “body count”. I guarantee it has probably crossed his mind which is why he doesn't like girls under 26.
6 hours is the most difficult time difference to synch with other people. My OH travels frequently for work & is regularly at thisntime.zone difference. If it's breakfast time for me, he's asleep, lunchtime for me, still asleep, breakfast time for him, I'm working, evening time for me, he's working, evening time for him, unless I stay up until stupidly late, I'm asleep. A couple of hours either way, time zone wise, makes a massive difference.
I already told him I’d get back to on everything.
Prove that you're smart by figuring it out. 😉
He made that promise a decade ago, and they’ve been living it every day since. It’s not like he promised ten years ago he’d buy her a car and then changed his mind. They’ve been actively doing his plan for ten years, far longer than initially intended. And now he’s “changed his mind” to thinking, you know what, since you sacrificed everything for ten years and I like that, let’s just do that forever, okay? I can’t believe you would use the fact that the promise was so long ago and as an excuse for him to blow it off, when she’s been suffering with the situation the whole time. Shameless, really.
Yes, you absolutely need to talk to Laura again about the whole thing, when you are both calm. Relationships only last if there is honest communication, if you keep something unsaid, it grows in your mind and ends up becoming resentment. Do tell her that you feel hurt that she jumped to cheating before even asking if you met a woman that morning and who was her, and if her opinion of you is that you are a potential cheater or where is she coming from. And listen to what she has to say. Clear the air. As for Lucia, when you see her, tell her “I'd appreciate that you don't fabricate gossip about me. You saw me hugging my cousin, took a picture, and created a story about it being cheating that is simply not true. Next time, ask me instead of spreading things about me that are simply not true”
Ask him how is his wife
Yeah the frog thing could have been innocuous, but this comment is the one that really disturbed me. Yes frogs are adorable, but OP may have buried the lede.
Maybe this guy is a dumbass, or maybe he wants to hurt her self-esteem. We don’t really have enough info to determine that.
But regardless, this specific little comment is pretty gross and I can’t imagine in what context it wouldn’t be.
For one, it's not the age gap, it's a maturity gap. For two, you should probably separate as fast as you can. She sounds like the type of person that will soon be bringing home new guys, not to hurt you but because you don't register anymore. Don't hurt yourself living through that.
I'm not yo-yo, so I don't generally stick with wishy-washy people…. It'd depend on the actual reason why he changed his mind over the course of 4 days.. I would have a very hot time believing he worked on himself enough to be ready for a relationship over the course of 4 days.