My personal opinion on strip clubs is that anything that’s cheating/inappropriate when it’s free still is if you pay for it. In any situation, if my boyfriend is in a room and a woman starts taking her clothes off, I expect him to leave that room. The location of that room is not relevant to me. My boyfriend and I had this conversation very early on and he agreed to this understanding. If he hadn’t felt comfortable agreeing to it, I would have respected that and found a partner who is more compatible with me.
That’s all to say, I think what matters here is how important this is to you in the long run. Is this a hot boundary for you that you don’t want to be in a monogamous relationship with someone who goes to strip clubs? Then the relationship probably won’t work out unless he is on board with that. If it’s more of a discomfort but not an outright objection, maybe you just need to have a conversation about appropriate boundaries in that setting to reassure you that you’re both on the same page.
They are loud, they smell, their fur sheds everywhere, their shit is everywhere, everyone assumes you love them so don’t bother (or are unable)to control them, they chase and bother wildlife, many are aggressive, and they chase me on my bike putting me in danger of crashing regularly.
While I understand that many of these can be mitigated by good ownership, and is not necessarily the fault of the dog, the vast majority of owners suck, so its just one and the same to me at this point. I didn’t used to hate dogs.
But you dont, lmao. That's why you're here looking for advice when you're obviously in a terrible situation you put yourself in because you were manipulated by this loser BF of yours. Now you have to deal with this dud, potential predator, for the rest of that kid's life. If you would have gotten pregnant at 18, you'd have two losers for baby daddies. My advice is you need help. And not just with this relationship. Holy shit, it just gets worse and worse the more you type and you have zero self awareness of your actual situation.
Who cares what happens to this sick fuck though? You don't have to fix him.
You need to report this and kick him out of the house.
If you let someone like this off you're telling him it's okay to think about raping little children. And if you are a mother it's your duty to protect them NOT this POS.
Breakup
My personal opinion on strip clubs is that anything that’s cheating/inappropriate when it’s free still is if you pay for it. In any situation, if my boyfriend is in a room and a woman starts taking her clothes off, I expect him to leave that room. The location of that room is not relevant to me. My boyfriend and I had this conversation very early on and he agreed to this understanding. If he hadn’t felt comfortable agreeing to it, I would have respected that and found a partner who is more compatible with me.
That’s all to say, I think what matters here is how important this is to you in the long run. Is this a hot boundary for you that you don’t want to be in a monogamous relationship with someone who goes to strip clubs? Then the relationship probably won’t work out unless he is on board with that. If it’s more of a discomfort but not an outright objection, maybe you just need to have a conversation about appropriate boundaries in that setting to reassure you that you’re both on the same page.
They are loud, they smell, their fur sheds everywhere, their shit is everywhere, everyone assumes you love them so don’t bother (or are unable)to control them, they chase and bother wildlife, many are aggressive, and they chase me on my bike putting me in danger of crashing regularly.
While I understand that many of these can be mitigated by good ownership, and is not necessarily the fault of the dog, the vast majority of owners suck, so its just one and the same to me at this point. I didn’t used to hate dogs.
Tell him you don’t to go out for walks with him anymore because you don’t feel safe.
Most men take pride in being able to protect the ones they love, hopefully he’ll take your concerns seriously or let you walk arm in arm
Updateme!
But you dont, lmao. That's why you're here looking for advice when you're obviously in a terrible situation you put yourself in because you were manipulated by this loser BF of yours. Now you have to deal with this dud, potential predator, for the rest of that kid's life. If you would have gotten pregnant at 18, you'd have two losers for baby daddies. My advice is you need help. And not just with this relationship. Holy shit, it just gets worse and worse the more you type and you have zero self awareness of your actual situation.
Who cares what happens to this sick fuck though? You don't have to fix him.
You need to report this and kick him out of the house.
If you let someone like this off you're telling him it's okay to think about raping little children. And if you are a mother it's your duty to protect them NOT this POS.