If the only reason you stay in a relationship is emotions, its probably a bad, best case, or toxic, worst case, scenario (remember the conditional does not work the other way rought though). There's gotta be more to a relationship than the “love” you feel. They should help in tough times, show interest in some of the things you are dedicated to, guide you to become the best version of yourself, etc.
If there isn't anything more to a relationship than your own feelings, then you should probably not be there.
You don't really have to call him out if he's an ex. I'm not sure it will help much at this point. What do you want to achieve? Have him delete them. For the future remember to NEVER send nudes, not even for 1 time view.
There's a lot of half truth responses here. I really wouldn't get this type of advice from Reddit. You're going to spend a long frustrating amount of time working through the different suggestions, anticipating changes, and probably getting it wrong. Look at some legit health service websites for information about erectile dysfunction, and talk to your primary care doctor about it so he can do a proper assessment. I work in healthcare and have these conversations with patients on the regular.
Sounds like you have a really good partner there. Keep up the communication with her, don't get too frustrated, and know that you'll get things going again soon!
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This is why a lot of people don’t like to talk about the fact that they have money early on in a relationship. However, it’s for the best this happened now. Because money and attitudes towards money are a huge issue with couples.
It seems you two have very different attitudes. It would be one thing if you were married. But you’ve barely been dating. (Not even a year.) Clearly this isn’t going to work long term. People who save and people who want to spend everything don’t last long.
I think you already know that this relationship isn’t going to last.
It’s doesn’t ALWAYS have to end or ruin the relationship, but it does very very very often. If you want to give it a chance, you’ll have to get to the bottom of exactly why she did it, what you will need to move past it, whether she’d be willing to give that to you and where that would leave your relationship in the aftermath. For all that, you would need a really good psychologist.
And I only mention this because you guys have been together since you were very young and are very young still, so it is likely that this happened from a substantial lack of maturity at least on her part, but maybe on both your parts.
I am so sorry you are going through this. It really sucks.
You do need to leave. You need to save yourself. Your mother is a grown woman and will understand and if not, then maybe isn't such a great mom.
You are an adult and need to have your own life and feel some joy. Honestly, you just need to tell her you are moving out. Give a timeline and tell her it's time for you to be an adult on your own now. You don't have to say anything about the actual why.
I guarantee this is not the first time he has traded drugs for sex or cheated on you and it won't be the last. That's some really nasty predatorial behavior, and btw there are plenty of people involved in that scene who look down on the kind of person who would do that. Even among dealers it's pretty low. Dude is obviously also an idiot about his business because he keeps getting caught and locked up. If you stay with this dude you'll probably end up with an STD or jail time yourself.
All due respect tho you responded to a comment and said you're not sure your if girlfriend cums or not when y'all fuck…I get why she'd do that. 100%. Cause I'm damn sure you want to get off every time ?
If the only reason you stay in a relationship is emotions, its probably a bad, best case, or toxic, worst case, scenario (remember the conditional does not work the other way rought though). There's gotta be more to a relationship than the “love” you feel. They should help in tough times, show interest in some of the things you are dedicated to, guide you to become the best version of yourself, etc.
If there isn't anything more to a relationship than your own feelings, then you should probably not be there.
You don't really have to call him out if he's an ex. I'm not sure it will help much at this point. What do you want to achieve? Have him delete them. For the future remember to NEVER send nudes, not even for 1 time view.
All my friends are taken though so I can’t go to a bar or anything on my own.
There's a lot of half truth responses here. I really wouldn't get this type of advice from Reddit. You're going to spend a long frustrating amount of time working through the different suggestions, anticipating changes, and probably getting it wrong. Look at some legit health service websites for information about erectile dysfunction, and talk to your primary care doctor about it so he can do a proper assessment. I work in healthcare and have these conversations with patients on the regular.
Sounds like you have a really good partner there. Keep up the communication with her, don't get too frustrated, and know that you'll get things going again soon!
This is terrifying from your perspective but your boyfriend doesn't get it, he is having a great time pranking you.
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There is nothing illegal about posting the pics. I think you should post them and break up with her at the same time.
TL;DR – My family is obnoxious.
Just grow a backbone and cut ties already.
I'm not generally attracted to women and mostly watch clips related to crafting and psychology and I still get twerking videos recommended sometimes. Lol.
This is why a lot of people don’t like to talk about the fact that they have money early on in a relationship. However, it’s for the best this happened now. Because money and attitudes towards money are a huge issue with couples.
It seems you two have very different attitudes. It would be one thing if you were married. But you’ve barely been dating. (Not even a year.) Clearly this isn’t going to work long term. People who save and people who want to spend everything don’t last long.
I think you already know that this relationship isn’t going to last.
The fact that she had lied to you over something so big is a red flag.
Whether you care or not is irrelevant, why are you okay with her lying to you?
It’s doesn’t ALWAYS have to end or ruin the relationship, but it does very very very often. If you want to give it a chance, you’ll have to get to the bottom of exactly why she did it, what you will need to move past it, whether she’d be willing to give that to you and where that would leave your relationship in the aftermath. For all that, you would need a really good psychologist.
And I only mention this because you guys have been together since you were very young and are very young still, so it is likely that this happened from a substantial lack of maturity at least on her part, but maybe on both your parts.
I am so sorry you are going through this. It really sucks.
You do need to leave. You need to save yourself. Your mother is a grown woman and will understand and if not, then maybe isn't such a great mom.
You are an adult and need to have your own life and feel some joy. Honestly, you just need to tell her you are moving out. Give a timeline and tell her it's time for you to be an adult on your own now. You don't have to say anything about the actual why.
Has she ever had a hip replacement?
I guarantee this is not the first time he has traded drugs for sex or cheated on you and it won't be the last. That's some really nasty predatorial behavior, and btw there are plenty of people involved in that scene who look down on the kind of person who would do that. Even among dealers it's pretty low. Dude is obviously also an idiot about his business because he keeps getting caught and locked up. If you stay with this dude you'll probably end up with an STD or jail time yourself.
All due respect tho you responded to a comment and said you're not sure your if girlfriend cums or not when y'all fuck…I get why she'd do that. 100%. Cause I'm damn sure you want to get off every time ?