That is something you should have brought up before or starting dating her. You can't assume her stopping it.
I see people talking about boundaries, but what it means is that it is okay when this is your boundary, but it means that you either accept it or break it off with her. It does not mean you telling her this is your boundary and she should stop it because of that. Just to be sure. See so many people using boundaries as an excuse to control their partner's behaviour on here.
Your husband sounds incredibly shallow, and he is adding to your struggles with food. While making your weight a condition of your marriage, he is making food and weight a trigger for you. This likely has become very unhealthy for your body. Do not lose weight for this man or fight to keep him if he wants to leave over 20 pounds. This is not a healthy situation for you.
Kate can go flicker herself. As people here pointed out, the character is Asian. Your GFs race is Asian, Kate can go take a long walk off a very short pier.
Further, this is like saying a person can only play characters if it matches their race.
Watch those same people go watch the soon to be released new little mermaid.
Ultimately, cosplay is about having fun.
Also, if kate wants to escalate this matter reply with something like…
“I find it offensive you are attempting to block (gf name) who is Asian from playing an Asian character. Further it is offensive that you are attempting to justify it by claiming that the character in question is black when the character is not, they are asian.”
Actually send that text as a mass text to Kate and anyone who sides with her.
She shouldn't have been able to text him at 4am… He has been allowing this and not shutting it down as he should. He's in a committed relationship and another woman is actively seeking his attention and he's providing it. It's not appropriate behaviour within the confines of a monogamous relationship. His partner was uncomfortable with it and he didn't care.
I have been in his position, I rejected the person and when they persisted I told them it wasn't appropriate and to not contact me outside of work related necessary communication. And when they did, I reported them to our manager and HR team. It's really not that difficult to do the right thing in this situation and he choose not to.
He was just awful, saying he wants a partner not a lazy woman who just watches TikTok all day – except he was a lot more awful in the way he said and lots of swearing! He just came across as such a d**k
BUT now I'm seriously reconsidering this whole relationship
It sucks, but I think you're on the right track. Those aspirations of yours were never plausible to begin with.
I mean, you could go on a years-long struggle to root out this entrenched toxic codependency, but just walking away seems like the healthiest use of your time at this point.
Thank you for your comment! I would like to clarify that I want kids more than anything else, almost desperately. The dog is honestly and truly my only reason for wanting to wait. It just isn’t sanitary. And though I’m not a neat freak, I think it’s really gross to have a baby in an environment like that. I have been mentioning it for years but never had a real reason to push hard because we weren’t planning on starting our family quite yet. Now we are though, so the problem is sorta coming to a head. I adore my wife, so I usually just let her have her way if it’s not life changing. But this is just a really big thing for me. She just refuses to talk about it because it upsets her.
She thought i would come over for the week end i couldnt because my mom took the car.
Another time I asked her if I could come over but I forgot that i had planned something with my sister. In which i apologised like 200 times.(she told me it was okay)
The third time I asked her if i could come over but she didnt seem so thrilled about it. So I told her I could come over another day if she wanted but she problably didnt undertand it that well
I also had to take an exam to enter nursing school.
It was never really official that we do something except for that one time. She could of just asked me or come over herself.
Its also important to note I've always found time for her even when i had no energy or money to drive 30' minutes to her place. I've always driven her to places and went to places with her even when i prefered to stay at home just to make her smile.
Don’t do anything you don’t want to but I will say at least appreciate that your grandma is being so supportive! I know that when I get married I won’t have any of my family at my wedding
Oh nooo, you deserve better than this!
That is something you should have brought up before or starting dating her. You can't assume her stopping it.
I see people talking about boundaries, but what it means is that it is okay when this is your boundary, but it means that you either accept it or break it off with her. It does not mean you telling her this is your boundary and she should stop it because of that. Just to be sure. See so many people using boundaries as an excuse to control their partner's behaviour on here.
thank you! I think that's it
Yet he says he wants one of his own, tell him he is being a little boy and selfish
Your husband sounds incredibly shallow, and he is adding to your struggles with food. While making your weight a condition of your marriage, he is making food and weight a trigger for you. This likely has become very unhealthy for your body. Do not lose weight for this man or fight to keep him if he wants to leave over 20 pounds. This is not a healthy situation for you.
Yep, my belief of guy/lady friends don’t exist ?
Kate can go flicker herself. As people here pointed out, the character is Asian. Your GFs race is Asian, Kate can go take a long walk off a very short pier.
Further, this is like saying a person can only play characters if it matches their race.
Watch those same people go watch the soon to be released new little mermaid.
Ultimately, cosplay is about having fun.
Also, if kate wants to escalate this matter reply with something like…
“I find it offensive you are attempting to block (gf name) who is Asian from playing an Asian character. Further it is offensive that you are attempting to justify it by claiming that the character in question is black when the character is not, they are asian.”
Actually send that text as a mass text to Kate and anyone who sides with her.
She shouldn't have been able to text him at 4am… He has been allowing this and not shutting it down as he should. He's in a committed relationship and another woman is actively seeking his attention and he's providing it. It's not appropriate behaviour within the confines of a monogamous relationship. His partner was uncomfortable with it and he didn't care.
I have been in his position, I rejected the person and when they persisted I told them it wasn't appropriate and to not contact me outside of work related necessary communication. And when they did, I reported them to our manager and HR team. It's really not that difficult to do the right thing in this situation and he choose not to.
He was just awful, saying he wants a partner not a lazy woman who just watches TikTok all day – except he was a lot more awful in the way he said and lots of swearing! He just came across as such a d**k
BUT now I'm seriously reconsidering this whole relationship
It sucks, but I think you're on the right track. Those aspirations of yours were never plausible to begin with.
I mean, you could go on a years-long struggle to root out this entrenched toxic codependency, but just walking away seems like the healthiest use of your time at this point.
Can't wait to see you post about this dude later.
I think most Redditors are immature and still in elementary school.
Thank you for your comment! I would like to clarify that I want kids more than anything else, almost desperately. The dog is honestly and truly my only reason for wanting to wait. It just isn’t sanitary. And though I’m not a neat freak, I think it’s really gross to have a baby in an environment like that. I have been mentioning it for years but never had a real reason to push hard because we weren’t planning on starting our family quite yet. Now we are though, so the problem is sorta coming to a head. I adore my wife, so I usually just let her have her way if it’s not life changing. But this is just a really big thing for me. She just refuses to talk about it because it upsets her.
Why haven't you told your mom that you will not visit while he is not invited?
Just no.
Go watch Chasing Amy. Then see how you feel.
troll? i literally had to make a separate account from my original to post on this sub…
She’s 38, she doesn’t have the luxury of waiting indefinitely.
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She thought i would come over for the week end i couldnt because my mom took the car.
Another time I asked her if I could come over but I forgot that i had planned something with my sister. In which i apologised like 200 times.(she told me it was okay)
The third time I asked her if i could come over but she didnt seem so thrilled about it. So I told her I could come over another day if she wanted but she problably didnt undertand it that well
I also had to take an exam to enter nursing school.
It was never really official that we do something except for that one time. She could of just asked me or come over herself.
Its also important to note I've always found time for her even when i had no energy or money to drive 30' minutes to her place. I've always driven her to places and went to places with her even when i prefered to stay at home just to make her smile.
Don’t do anything you don’t want to but I will say at least appreciate that your grandma is being so supportive! I know that when I get married I won’t have any of my family at my wedding