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Sounds like they got chemistry issues going on in their brain and that's just the best way they could explain it to you
So is grabbing and kissing someone without consent my dude.
This is the nastiest thing I’ve ever read. You need to dump that absolute piece of human shit. He does not love you he is using you as a vessel to project his sick, weird, perverted fantasies onto. You should also never let this dude around your friends anymore because he’s a fucking creep
I’m not the ghosting type, but I’d ghost this jerk
Do not watch the Dare Ring Game videos.
He is unbalanced and disgusting. And he also sounds mean. I personally would fight him all the way.
Are you blowing this out of proportion? I think so, yes.
Erectile dysfunction can be extremely embarrassing for a man if he feels insecure or uncertain about his sexual capabilities or connection. Viagara can be as much psychological as physiological in many cases. If it helps him get past anxiety or self-doubt, why should you object to him taking it?
Yeah. It might not feel like the wedding is the cause for him, so I’d just ask about stress or overwhelm in general.
10 years is a long time before you see a big behaviour change so I’d definitely be having him look at external factors.
BTW my anxiety or overwhelm sprays come across as anger. Sometimes our emotions get redirected like that… if he’s open to talking to a therapist it might help him through…
Definition of mental gymnastics “Mental gymnastics refers to the mental work one must do to justify a belief they hold, often times it's a very absurd belief that's held despite evidence to the contrary. “
Example of a belief one may have to perform mental gymnastics with: “For example: a person in a relationship is not allowed to withdraw consent.
Certain beliefs need more mental gymnastics, others less: “The mental gymnastics required in order to assert this belief and stand behind it are insane.”
Bringing it back to this post and how my comment relates to it, this is also an advice sub, so something I say should contribute to the issue at hand: “This seems to be the belief the husband holds,”
My reasoning for why the husband may have an issue with consent: “based on his reaction, and giving her the cold shoulder and ignoring her is his attempt to persuade her that she's in the wrong.”
My reasoning for why OP is not in the wrong, and her husband is in the wrong: “In reality, anyone may withdraw their consent at any time.”
In the cult I was a member of, marital sexual assault is an issue. In fact, in the cult I was a member of, having sexually charged conversations with underaged children one-on-one with adults is also an issue. I speak about these issues openly because I know it's not something that everyone understands, something you seem to suggest (that it's an obvious fact that everyone is aware of) in a previous comment where you call me sheltered or naive, by asking if I had learned this fact yesterday: “A partner no longer wants to have sex? Then they can withdraw their consent. At that point, the sex has to stop or it becomes sexual assault.”
To underscore my point for those who may not understand what I'm stating: “And yes, even married people can be sexually assaulted by their spouse.”
Had I wanted to “paint them with the same brush”, “conflate them, or “liken them”, I'd have been much more direct. But as that wasn't the point of my comment, something you don't seem to understand, I did not. OP doesn't seem to have an issue communicating her needs, she agreed to his suggestion of an OM after pushing and suggesting the issue multiple times, she even encourages him to go out that night and have fun. She does this with the understanding it's an agreement on a trial basis, either may rescind their consent. In the morning, she realises how she actually feels about an OM when she sees her spouse has signed up for a dating app/site, at which point she communicates with him that she no longer consents to an OM. Her husband pouts and gives her the cold shoulder. Husband doesn't seem to have also understood it was on a trial basis and that she would be able to change her mind. Husband doesn't understand the open communication and honesty required to have a successful OM. I did not suggest that her husband would, or had sexually assault her; I did not say that husband wanted to cheat on her, or already had cheated on her.
I've clarified my comment multiple times, and you seem intent on either willfully ignoring my clarifications, or insisting I meant something with my comment which I didn't. You're allowed to do this. You're allowed to have your opinions, as outlined in the Psychology Today article you sent me. You're also allowed to be willfully ignorant of my clarifications and even ignore them. This, however, ignores the basic understanding of a dialog. There is no back-and-forth here, there is no reaching a greater understanding or appreciation for other's opinions and viewpoints. You appear to be willfully obtuse. And for someone complaining that I've spent a lot of time on this, and that I have a problem setting boundaries, you seem to be suffer from that which you accuse me of suffering, seeing as how you've been stewing on this now for almost a full 24 hours.
Based on your comment history, we don't agree on many things. I disagree with many of your (apparently) held beliefs and opinions. And while I've tried to be considerate and thoughtful with my responses, not knowing your mental capacity or background, you've been accusative, brash, borderline rude, and also just straight-up rude to me, while not respecting what events may have occurred in my past (suggesting I “try both”, meaning being cheated on being sexually assaulted, so I could “learn they're not the same”). What I imply with my comment, and what you infer, are not the same. I hope you learn the difference between those two (imply vs. infer), as it's a significant difference that may help you to understand people in the future. But based on this interaction, understanding doesn't seem to be your goal. I wish you more success in understanding people in the future, internet stranger.
Agreed. I already told her not to let him into the apartment and now she won't talk to me. I don't care if she is mad, as long as I don't see him around my place.
I am not sure how to stage and intervention with this or if I even can.
Thanks for commenting
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