We talked everything out and she promised me she'll give me what I want. She has said this over the past 2 years but refuses to do anything or even try even in the slightest. Earlier I asked basically when can we do it she said “ohh” and completely avoided the question.
I am woman in recovery from alcohol for a couple of decades. I stated that way because I don’t want to tell my age. I hope you find your way when it comes to alcohol.
How about just asking her? This sounds like a lot of work and the premise of a truly awful rom-com starring Vince Vaughn or Owen Wilson, maybe both of them.
Proving that I could have done it all along but only did it right at the end
You had to make a breakthrough first. That's like saying it's unacceptable for someone to study and pass an exam because them passing “proves” they could have passed the exam all along without studying.
Yeah, I mean for me anyone who posts constantly on social media is not someone I’d personally want to be with at all, but that doesn’t seem to be a line for Op!
Not sure what country your in, but in the US saying no is indicating not wanting to having sex and not communicating yes.
A definitive no and body mannerisms that indicate no have always been a REALLY indicator that she doesn't want to have sex. Again, not sure what country you're from, but you're reading far more into what I am saying, or attaching your own meaning to it. I said she said no. She said no several times. That is all she had to do to indicate she did not want to have sex. She seems to be in doubt because she didn't do more. SHE DIDN'T NEED TO DO MORE TO SHOW SHE DIDN'T WANT IT….
Comparing braces and eye correction to plastic surgery is nonsensical. People are allowed to have preferences and it's not wrong to be turned off by plastic surgery.
The issue here is OP's boyfriend seems like a hypocrite because he was fine with her body before he knew.
you making excuses for her, like bro, she cheated because she wanted to and she told you because maybe she felt bad about it, but what does it change? nothing! in the moment she decided to fuck another person and that's what matters. sounds like you just don't want to accept the truth, that's just sad…
It’s not lack of sex, it’s lack of intimacy and caring that seems to be the issue. She not only refuses to put any effort into doing things for you, she actively negs anything you do enjoy. It’s almost as if her sole purpose in life is to drain everything pleasurable out of yours.
Have they been therapists that specialize in sexual addiction? My partner found a male counselor who specializes in sexual/pornographic addiction and he’s great, and understands my struggles as well.
“The marriage counselor wants me to be a doormat and to trust her, so she can use me longer as an ATM while hanging out with that guy. No one cares how I feel about this all, counselor and SO included.”
Fixed for you, you are welcome. Fire them both from your life before you fall into depression yourself.
It is that way for many of us 🙂 but you must not lose hope, things will change.
He knew she’d hear about it, he had to tell her
No
We talked everything out and she promised me she'll give me what I want. She has said this over the past 2 years but refuses to do anything or even try even in the slightest. Earlier I asked basically when can we do it she said “ohh” and completely avoided the question.
Yep. She’s trying to get to your phone without interference (you, awake)
I am woman in recovery from alcohol for a couple of decades. I stated that way because I don’t want to tell my age. I hope you find your way when it comes to alcohol.
How about just asking her? This sounds like a lot of work and the premise of a truly awful rom-com starring Vince Vaughn or Owen Wilson, maybe both of them.
This is just not true though.
Proving that I could have done it all along but only did it right at the end
You had to make a breakthrough first. That's like saying it's unacceptable for someone to study and pass an exam because them passing “proves” they could have passed the exam all along without studying.
He's not being logical, he is twisting things.
Yep. This should have been addressed years ago by him in private and if they didn’t want to not be racists dipshits he should have gone LC
Yeah, I mean for me anyone who posts constantly on social media is not someone I’d personally want to be with at all, but that doesn’t seem to be a line for Op!
Not sure what country your in, but in the US saying no is indicating not wanting to having sex and not communicating yes.
A definitive no and body mannerisms that indicate no have always been a REALLY indicator that she doesn't want to have sex. Again, not sure what country you're from, but you're reading far more into what I am saying, or attaching your own meaning to it. I said she said no. She said no several times. That is all she had to do to indicate she did not want to have sex. She seems to be in doubt because she didn't do more. SHE DIDN'T NEED TO DO MORE TO SHOW SHE DIDN'T WANT IT….
NOW do you understand?!?
Don’t take the bait.
Next time he’s going down on you do a little hip thrust to line up your bhole to his mouth and let one rip right down his throat
So glad you’re out, he sounds like the scum of the earth!
Near Philadelphia, have to get to New York. Not very far, I just don't have a way to do it myself.
Comparing braces and eye correction to plastic surgery is nonsensical. People are allowed to have preferences and it's not wrong to be turned off by plastic surgery.
The issue here is OP's boyfriend seems like a hypocrite because he was fine with her body before he knew.
you making excuses for her, like bro, she cheated because she wanted to and she told you because maybe she felt bad about it, but what does it change? nothing! in the moment she decided to fuck another person and that's what matters. sounds like you just don't want to accept the truth, that's just sad…
Uh huh, convenient excuse, I'd dump her life's too short and your too young to sign up for this drama. She ain't worth it. She will cheat again.
It’s not lack of sex, it’s lack of intimacy and caring that seems to be the issue. She not only refuses to put any effort into doing things for you, she actively negs anything you do enjoy. It’s almost as if her sole purpose in life is to drain everything pleasurable out of yours.
My guy you’re basically Neo in The Matrix.
Have they been therapists that specialize in sexual addiction? My partner found a male counselor who specializes in sexual/pornographic addiction and he’s great, and understands my struggles as well.
“The marriage counselor wants me to be a doormat and to trust her, so she can use me longer as an ATM while hanging out with that guy. No one cares how I feel about this all, counselor and SO included.”
Fixed for you, you are welcome. Fire them both from your life before you fall into depression yourself.