That definitely makes it harder. Sometimes when someone is struggling mentslly, seeking support is the hardest part. I myself have dealt with anxiety and depression, and for me I was resistant to therapy at first. Once I tried it though, I never looked back. It might take some time , or she may never come around. I don't know her obviously so I'm not going to pretend to be an expert and know what she needs, but open and honest communication is key.
Okay I just watched this movie a couple days ago because everyone always talks about it, and kinda hated it. Why does everyone think this movie is so good!?
Your relationship goals seem to not be aligned. Also after six years and all those years of being the breadwinner, are you sure he has any ambition? Go back to him and tell him you'll pay for the wedding, but you want a pre-nup. Love to see what he says to that?
Your mom is wrong and an idiot. Unless you're leaving something out, a 21 year old dating a 19 year old isn't a pedo. If she's not sorry then why does she want a pedo in her home? Sounds negligent on her part
Umm, no one can answer these questions. It's actually dangerous to create a reality other than the one you have experienced in order to make decisions like this.
Never heard of Daniken, and I don't read about anything. I do have a love for Star Trek, so I believe it's more of a first contact situation like in the show! In all of the universe, to believe that we're the only ones is just absurd. Like y'all like to say here on this sub: “It's a numbers game!” Lol
If he made effort this year after learning how I felt last year I absolutely would be grateful to see he tried to make up for that. But now, he’s like well we can just go do something this weekend, and I don’t even want to. It’s besides the point so yes it wouldn’t matter at this point lol. He already made the choice to do it again….
They want something deathly tight, like their fist. So a natural vagina that opens and get lubricated when aroused is not “tight” enough for them.
I had a friend when we were younger ask me if it’s normal to bleed again after you lost your virginity, like “will the hymen grow back”…turns out her bf was shoving it in with no foreplay. She would tear because she wasn’t wet…but I guess it felt good to him so…
Emotions happen, and not always for logical reasons. I would be put off by it as well because at first thought, yeah, you think she is still in love with the guy. But it could be so many more things going on that maybe even she can't explain or understand
It reminds me of the story of the guy who was with his gf for 10 years. He wanted a family, and she didn't. They broke up. 3 years later, he runs into her at a party he goes to with his current gf of a year and the ex is 6 months pregnant. He has a full on melt down in front of everyone. Awkward as hell for everyone.
a lot of people on RA are actively kinda shitty, so i suppose i assume the worst of people when i see certain words and stuff, i apologize for being rude!
but still, i wear things from my family all the time! it can be very sentimental, and really even if its cheap i just kind of hold it as “they thought of me when getting this thing”, so when i see them i wear them! i hope you guys have a good night 🙂
It could be the change in his physical appearance, yes. It could be that his preferences have changed along with his attitude and ego.
It also could be that the constant breaks is weighing down on your relationship… having to take several breaks over a mere three year period isn't healthy for a relationship. You're supposed to adapt and learn how to stay in a relationship when things get hectic because you can't just check out when you've say moved in together or be married or something.
So my suggestion is to have a serious, frank conversation with him.
Yes- as parents you need to prioritize your children. However, she's not wrong to to be actively making an effort to put you first. It's true that one day, you two will be alone together when your kids move out. It's a very common story for two parents to spend 20+ years focussed on the children, that by the time their children leave home they realize that they've grown apart and have nothing between them anymore.
It's like that whole airplane safety scenario. Put your own oxygen mask on before you help others. She clearly needs/wants to maintain a close relationship with you to be able to serve her family better.
Your whole post reads as a very big misunderstanding between you two.
Minus children who are competent to take over, that responsibility falls to the grandchildren. So file the paperwork to get a conservatorship over him. At least that way you can control his finances and if he's a danger to himself or others you can get him placed into a secure assisted living situation.
the crazy thing is he has no problem taking the lead when it comes to “boys night out” and finding all sorts of things for him and his friends to do. the last time he planned and executed a date for us was almost a year ago. im definitely taking a backseat to planning anything for the time being
Is this an option for you? To get engaged and wait for her to be ready?
Do not marry someone who won’t have sex with you if sex is important to you. Getting married will absolutely 100% not solve this issue.
Just send him this. Well worded
He could just be stupid and not malicious?
That definitely makes it harder. Sometimes when someone is struggling mentslly, seeking support is the hardest part. I myself have dealt with anxiety and depression, and for me I was resistant to therapy at first. Once I tried it though, I never looked back. It might take some time , or she may never come around. I don't know her obviously so I'm not going to pretend to be an expert and know what she needs, but open and honest communication is key.
If you find the earings, pawn them and use the money to replace your items
Okay I just watched this movie a couple days ago because everyone always talks about it, and kinda hated it. Why does everyone think this movie is so good!?
I smell a relationship that is burnt out.
there is no dick in the world this good
Your relationship goals seem to not be aligned. Also after six years and all those years of being the breadwinner, are you sure he has any ambition? Go back to him and tell him you'll pay for the wedding, but you want a pre-nup. Love to see what he says to that?
Your mom is wrong and an idiot. Unless you're leaving something out, a 21 year old dating a 19 year old isn't a pedo. If she's not sorry then why does she want a pedo in her home? Sounds negligent on her part
Umm, no one can answer these questions. It's actually dangerous to create a reality other than the one you have experienced in order to make decisions like this.
Never heard of Daniken, and I don't read about anything. I do have a love for Star Trek, so I believe it's more of a first contact situation like in the show! In all of the universe, to believe that we're the only ones is just absurd. Like y'all like to say here on this sub: “It's a numbers game!” Lol
If he made effort this year after learning how I felt last year I absolutely would be grateful to see he tried to make up for that. But now, he’s like well we can just go do something this weekend, and I don’t even want to. It’s besides the point so yes it wouldn’t matter at this point lol. He already made the choice to do it again….
Girl, weird and dangerous. You want to go on vacation with a random man off the Internet you haven't even met?
Do I really need to explain why that's a bad idea?
Get a new FWB. This lady maybe trying to baby trap you. Time to ghost her.
They want something deathly tight, like their fist. So a natural vagina that opens and get lubricated when aroused is not “tight” enough for them.
I had a friend when we were younger ask me if it’s normal to bleed again after you lost your virginity, like “will the hymen grow back”…turns out her bf was shoving it in with no foreplay. She would tear because she wasn’t wet…but I guess it felt good to him so…
Why isn’t all of that, very different perspective in your OP?
Still not how adults work. She’s gonna date who she wants. Peace ✌?
Emotions happen, and not always for logical reasons. I would be put off by it as well because at first thought, yeah, you think she is still in love with the guy. But it could be so many more things going on that maybe even she can't explain or understand
It reminds me of the story of the guy who was with his gf for 10 years. He wanted a family, and she didn't. They broke up. 3 years later, he runs into her at a party he goes to with his current gf of a year and the ex is 6 months pregnant. He has a full on melt down in front of everyone. Awkward as hell for everyone.
a lot of people on RA are actively kinda shitty, so i suppose i assume the worst of people when i see certain words and stuff, i apologize for being rude!
but still, i wear things from my family all the time! it can be very sentimental, and really even if its cheap i just kind of hold it as “they thought of me when getting this thing”, so when i see them i wear them! i hope you guys have a good night 🙂
Both! At the same time or one after the other. It’s really up to you, it’s your wedding!
Nope, her sisters name was Melodi.
I’m worried he feels guilty or thinks I’ll be upset if he didn’t.
It could be the change in his physical appearance, yes. It could be that his preferences have changed along with his attitude and ego.
It also could be that the constant breaks is weighing down on your relationship… having to take several breaks over a mere three year period isn't healthy for a relationship. You're supposed to adapt and learn how to stay in a relationship when things get hectic because you can't just check out when you've say moved in together or be married or something.
So my suggestion is to have a serious, frank conversation with him.
“Did you catch the bit where it says even when not expressing saliva can spread the virus? “
I QUOTED THAT TOO. I QUOTED IT AND THEN WENT IN DETAIL, ARE YOU STUPID?
Yes- as parents you need to prioritize your children. However, she's not wrong to to be actively making an effort to put you first. It's true that one day, you two will be alone together when your kids move out. It's a very common story for two parents to spend 20+ years focussed on the children, that by the time their children leave home they realize that they've grown apart and have nothing between them anymore.
It's like that whole airplane safety scenario. Put your own oxygen mask on before you help others. She clearly needs/wants to maintain a close relationship with you to be able to serve her family better.
Your whole post reads as a very big misunderstanding between you two.
I don't know this is is the reason why I wasn't asked, it's just the only thing I can think that saves face
Autistic and ADHD
Minus children who are competent to take over, that responsibility falls to the grandchildren. So file the paperwork to get a conservatorship over him. At least that way you can control his finances and if he's a danger to himself or others you can get him placed into a secure assisted living situation.
“my partner just accepted that this is the only way because they were taught that within their family.”
Precisely!
the crazy thing is he has no problem taking the lead when it comes to “boys night out” and finding all sorts of things for him and his friends to do. the last time he planned and executed a date for us was almost a year ago. im definitely taking a backseat to planning anything for the time being