Partner (32M) belittled me regarding my (31M) salary in front of a huge group of his co-staffs and friends

" Henry" and I have been with each other for about 10 months. We all rarely have disagreements, so when they do happen they' re usually about diverging preferences in movies, food, etc .

One thing is he' h a little weird about cash. He' s a gifted software engineer who has been making big money since he graduated college, but he was a first-gen student having an immigrant background and usually had to work really hard. So as a result he is still really thrifty and anal regarding money.

I on the other hand had a normal middle class upbringing with two public schoolteacher parents. However , I managed to graduate with a humanities degree and for several years I was making a maximum of ~$60k. Over the past couple of years I actually managed to pivot into technology and just recently landed a good $85k/year developer position that i am very excited and happy about naturally.

Anyway, Wednesday Henry had a big get-together at his house for his birthday (which is tomorrow). There must have been 25-30 people there and I knew very few of them. From one point we were all of in his living room and he wanted to do a round-robin introduction factor. We were supposed to say our own name, what we do, and another interesting fact about ourselves.

when it came to my convert, I introduced myself, mentioning that I was Henry' ersus BF and that I was going to start a new job. I needed had a couple of drinks and kind of overshared that I has been excited because it was a huge pay bump. Obviously We didn' t say the amount. But all of a sudden Henry interjects with: " Don' t get ahead of yourself honey, it' s still only 85k! Hahahaha. "

I used to be completely taken aback plus stunned and just passed it onto the next person. I couldn' t believe he’d call out my salary in front of a huge group of mainly strangers, most of whom had been software people who probably create double what I' ll be making. I didn' t bring it up and have no idea if I should. A couple of close friends told me I need to relax and never even think of bringing up until at least after their birthday, if at all. But what he said deeply upset, hurt, and humiliated myself and I want him that. Thoughts?