Do not listen to those assholes telling you that your fears are irrational. They are completely normal, I have the same. Nobody should act normal towards pregnancy, for some women, me and you included, pregnancy is the worst thing that can happen so we obviously fear it. If your husband doesn't want to go with condom srly tell him to fk himself and look for a better husband.
Well maybe that's what he really want pushing marriage on me when he has always known I was never interested in that. So he created being rejected. And he only brings up marriage when it's convenient to him. He's never said, I love you I want to marry you. It's only like, well if you want to be on the house then marry me.
Going through with this will absolutely change your relationship. There is no way that it won't. In order to (hopefully) have it change in a positive way, you need to sit down with your wife and talk about the situation. Talk about literally everything; what she wants, what you want, how far is too far, what your concerns are, what her concerns are, etc. Do you want a permanent 3rd person in your relationship, or just random hookups with no attachments? What will you do if your wife really enjoys herself with the other person? What will your wife do if you really enjoy yourself with the other person? What will you do if, halfway through, you're having the time of your life but your wife has realized she hates it? What if the reverse happens, and you hate it but she loves it? Are toys off limits? Kissing on the mouth? Is dirty talk with the other person a yes or a no? Will you both find a partner together, or will you each seek out different people and do your own things? In that situation, what happens if one of you realizes this isn't for you and backs out, but the other goes through with it?
You guys need to have all of that laid out and set in stone before going to your first party.
I was thinking the same thing. Too many names of clients of the father, locations, you need to edit that stuff out. We don't need that info. Your desire to tell on them is leaking out.
Holy shit, you've created such a mess. You never once in this entire year corrected him? How did you think this would end? Yeah his fetishistic attitude about your “virginity” is gross and misogynistic for sure, but seriously, how did you see this going well?
Actions have consequences, it's as simple as that. You fucked around and found out. I will never get people that go after their supposed best friends family members( siblings in particular), why risk the friendship? Why put your friend in a shitty situation especially if things go wrong?
her brother A was like a little brother to me too, we basically grew up together.
I known my bestfriends since I was 7, I watched their little siblings grow up and so have they with mine, they are like family to me, the thought of hooking up with them is gross.
Thank you very much for this, I'm not offended at all. Just going through it obviously, none of the permutations is an easy choice
Not much. I don't really know them really well honestly. I've barely been alone with them
Do not listen to those assholes telling you that your fears are irrational. They are completely normal, I have the same. Nobody should act normal towards pregnancy, for some women, me and you included, pregnancy is the worst thing that can happen so we obviously fear it. If your husband doesn't want to go with condom srly tell him to fk himself and look for a better husband.
This is literally a relationship advice sub. Not a sub to determine if cheating is bad. What relationship do you think OP needs advice on?
Well maybe that's what he really want pushing marriage on me when he has always known I was never interested in that. So he created being rejected. And he only brings up marriage when it's convenient to him. He's never said, I love you I want to marry you. It's only like, well if you want to be on the house then marry me.
Going through with this will absolutely change your relationship. There is no way that it won't. In order to (hopefully) have it change in a positive way, you need to sit down with your wife and talk about the situation. Talk about literally everything; what she wants, what you want, how far is too far, what your concerns are, what her concerns are, etc. Do you want a permanent 3rd person in your relationship, or just random hookups with no attachments? What will you do if your wife really enjoys herself with the other person? What will your wife do if you really enjoy yourself with the other person? What will you do if, halfway through, you're having the time of your life but your wife has realized she hates it? What if the reverse happens, and you hate it but she loves it? Are toys off limits? Kissing on the mouth? Is dirty talk with the other person a yes or a no? Will you both find a partner together, or will you each seek out different people and do your own things? In that situation, what happens if one of you realizes this isn't for you and backs out, but the other goes through with it?
You guys need to have all of that laid out and set in stone before going to your first party.
There's considerable overlap. For clarity, try having an actual conversation.
I was thinking the same thing. Too many names of clients of the father, locations, you need to edit that stuff out. We don't need that info. Your desire to tell on them is leaking out.
This isn't the way to do it though!
One would have to believe this dude to assume that. Nice logic
Yeah I see. Thank you for the insight
Why are you wasting your husbands time just leave him
Holy shit, you've created such a mess. You never once in this entire year corrected him? How did you think this would end? Yeah his fetishistic attitude about your “virginity” is gross and misogynistic for sure, but seriously, how did you see this going well?
You literally just stayed you don't want to be an active member of a relationship that exhausts and drain you.
OP, what's your escape plan?
Yes, I work a part-time job and I receive SSI
Actions have consequences, it's as simple as that. You fucked around and found out. I will never get people that go after their supposed best friends family members( siblings in particular), why risk the friendship? Why put your friend in a shitty situation especially if things go wrong?
her brother A was like a little brother to me too, we basically grew up together.
I known my bestfriends since I was 7, I watched their little siblings grow up and so have they with mine, they are like family to me, the thought of hooking up with them is gross.
i appreciate u commenting ur insight:)
When we first started dating, he told me about an ex that wanted an open relationship to which he refused at the time.
Are you absolutely sure this is what really happened with his ex and it wasnt the other way around because somehow i have my doubts.