Those are some major red flags! I was seeing guy who had “changed his name” in every way but legally. It turns out, he was trying to distance himself from some domestic abuse and child abuse charges in the past. Also dated a totally differnt guy who, supposedly, was a trust fund baby. Turns out he was homeless and stole about $2,000 from me. Listen to your spidey sense! He sounds like he could be bad news!
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His method is disgusting, foolish and very insensitive to everyone around him. What is he sooo afraid that plunging is going to do that he comes up with alternative gross methods??? Plunging poop does not hurt the toilet, really it doesn’t. I would not support teaching children rude, disgusting, pointless and selfish habits like this either.
I’m cool with my exes, but not to the point where I talk to them every day or even have their number anymore. If I see them on the street I’d say hey, hope you’re well but that’s it.
For sure, with the additional point that OP shouldn’t feel bad if she decides that the situation isn’t working for her anymore. He shouldn’t feel bad about declining to get surgery he doesn’t want. She shouldn’t feel bad if she decides that his refusal means they’re never going to be sexually compatible.
Stand your ground? You are not a kid and neither is she. If she keeps harassing you, block her. She can't force you to be with her by whining and crying.
If you don't want to be in this relationship anymore.make the decision and stick to it. There is no how, you just do it.
I definitely have and have tried to soften my approach/stop stressing as a result.
I'm frankly struggling to be a successful father as well and I want the best for my boys, but in my mind I have not done well despite my best intentions. They are good boys, I just wanted to do more for them.
Do yourself a favour and take the leap. I promise you will find someone infinitely better than this human and you will be even more in love with and attracted to them.
First, you need to take the scary leap into being alone for a while and working on yourself. Try to find why you allow yourself to accept this kind of fake love and decide to never let it happen again.
I was in your shoes years ago. Made the leap, did the work and found the most beautiful human (my now husband) and I have found a love for myself that I never had before. The horrible person I left? The memory of his repulses me.
She didn't raise them alone. Her parents were still around. As someone who also had a hand in raising my siblings, I can tell you it's very different than the responsibilities of raising children as a parent . In one situation you do tasks to help your parents out. In the other you have to consider their housing, food, physical development, your possible career trajectories and how they may affect kids, their social development, etc.
My friend, if you’re still thinking about it, I suggest you take that as a sign to move on.
Those are some major red flags! I was seeing guy who had “changed his name” in every way but legally. It turns out, he was trying to distance himself from some domestic abuse and child abuse charges in the past. Also dated a totally differnt guy who, supposedly, was a trust fund baby. Turns out he was homeless and stole about $2,000 from me. Listen to your spidey sense! He sounds like he could be bad news!
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No. You broke her trust
His method is disgusting, foolish and very insensitive to everyone around him. What is he sooo afraid that plunging is going to do that he comes up with alternative gross methods??? Plunging poop does not hurt the toilet, really it doesn’t. I would not support teaching children rude, disgusting, pointless and selfish habits like this either.
I’m cool with my exes, but not to the point where I talk to them every day or even have their number anymore. If I see them on the street I’d say hey, hope you’re well but that’s it.
So why did you need to go through his phone.
I mean yes he is disgusting, and you should leave, but what was your reasoning for it?
Because currently your post just says “my bf got really drunk and I was finally able to go through his phone”
Currently it sounds like you are as toxic as he is disgusting.
For sure, with the additional point that OP shouldn’t feel bad if she decides that the situation isn’t working for her anymore. He shouldn’t feel bad about declining to get surgery he doesn’t want. She shouldn’t feel bad if she decides that his refusal means they’re never going to be sexually compatible.
Stand your ground? You are not a kid and neither is she. If she keeps harassing you, block her. She can't force you to be with her by whining and crying.
If you don't want to be in this relationship anymore.make the decision and stick to it. There is no how, you just do it.
Did she have a change in birth control?
Do you do all the little things that you sued to do when you dated?
Do you have date nights and romance her?
Is she seeing a therapist?
You SURE she isnt cheating?
I definitely have and have tried to soften my approach/stop stressing as a result.
I'm frankly struggling to be a successful father as well and I want the best for my boys, but in my mind I have not done well despite my best intentions. They are good boys, I just wanted to do more for them.
If you look at her post history, yes he is.
Take it from someone who’s been in your situation. Do it now. Don’t wait. Make the process short and kind.
Do yourself a favour and take the leap. I promise you will find someone infinitely better than this human and you will be even more in love with and attracted to them.
First, you need to take the scary leap into being alone for a while and working on yourself. Try to find why you allow yourself to accept this kind of fake love and decide to never let it happen again.
I was in your shoes years ago. Made the leap, did the work and found the most beautiful human (my now husband) and I have found a love for myself that I never had before. The horrible person I left? The memory of his repulses me.
That was just a single example. There are many.
She didn't raise them alone. Her parents were still around. As someone who also had a hand in raising my siblings, I can tell you it's very different than the responsibilities of raising children as a parent . In one situation you do tasks to help your parents out. In the other you have to consider their housing, food, physical development, your possible career trajectories and how they may affect kids, their social development, etc.