And how did you see these messages? If she showed you, then she did tell you about it. If you snooped, then you just proved her right.
She doesn’t want to be in the kind of relationship where she’s questioned for having friends. She did the right thing and told him to respect her boundaries. It doesn’t even sound like the guy was confessing anything, he probably doesn’t have many female friends and it’s new to him.
And either way, she dumped you, so leave her alone and get over it.
I played with the guys from 6 to 18 and sharing genitalia did not make me want to hang out with the other girls, I'd rather be with 90% of my team than segregated based on gender
He wouldn’t be my boyfriend any longer. It’s totally ok if he goes thru your phone and reads everything but you can’t do the same. I would nope out of there. He has a double standard. Sis you deserve better. I’m old enough to be your mom op and this guy ain’t it. You deserve so much better than what you’re getting. Know your worth op.
his views have caused me to not tell him that I’m on the pill.
Sorry, but this is a cop out. You cannot blame your husband because you’ve decided to lie by omission. Deciding not to tell him is your choice that you have to take complete responsibility for. Whatever his views are is a him issue, and something you both should discuss to find a solution you’re both happy with. Lying to him puts you in the wrong, regardless of whatever reaction you think he would have.
Also, just a heads up, if he does find out you’re in the pill and have been hiding it from him, he’s going to think you’re cheating on him.
Your entire comment was using your experience to compare to hers. You then said “I didn’t want to be the 50 year old trying to keep up with the 21 year old”, implying that her current behavior is leading her to become a 50 year old who parties like a 21 year old.
And honestly, it feels like your suggesting women should change their behavior and habits for their husband just because you did
What are you looking for relationship advice on? For something you can do, or is your “friend” asking for input?
If it's the former, there's not much that you can do. He doesn't have to discuss it with you. This is even more relevant if your friend didn't even ask you to step at all. If it's the latter, then that's actually open to interpretation and more details would be needed like if he has a history of cheating.
OP listen to this comment. It won't get better. If he wanted to make it happen, he would have done it without you begging to be recognized. Agreed that is blame shifting instead of someone truly interested in building a life together with you.
Nah. If there are soulmates, a soulmate is someone you feel safe with, that makes you the best version of yourself. You are toxic to each other and possibly trauma bonded. Yes, you are so young and this is a great opportunity to learn how to be in a healthy relationship and improve as a person. I definitely recommend learning how to be comfortable with yourself and healing first. You got this. Block him on everything and spend time on healthy hobbies
No you don't take the gift, a d follow through on the break up. She can return whatever she bought. Don't be a jerk, stop leading her on.
God I love reddit
And how did you see these messages? If she showed you, then she did tell you about it. If you snooped, then you just proved her right.
She doesn’t want to be in the kind of relationship where she’s questioned for having friends. She did the right thing and told him to respect her boundaries. It doesn’t even sound like the guy was confessing anything, he probably doesn’t have many female friends and it’s new to him.
And either way, she dumped you, so leave her alone and get over it.
I played with the guys from 6 to 18 and sharing genitalia did not make me want to hang out with the other girls, I'd rather be with 90% of my team than segregated based on gender
He wouldn’t be my boyfriend any longer. It’s totally ok if he goes thru your phone and reads everything but you can’t do the same. I would nope out of there. He has a double standard. Sis you deserve better. I’m old enough to be your mom op and this guy ain’t it. You deserve so much better than what you’re getting. Know your worth op.
his views have caused me to not tell him that I’m on the pill.
Sorry, but this is a cop out. You cannot blame your husband because you’ve decided to lie by omission. Deciding not to tell him is your choice that you have to take complete responsibility for. Whatever his views are is a him issue, and something you both should discuss to find a solution you’re both happy with. Lying to him puts you in the wrong, regardless of whatever reaction you think he would have.
Also, just a heads up, if he does find out you’re in the pill and have been hiding it from him, he’s going to think you’re cheating on him.
Good luck
Your entire comment was using your experience to compare to hers. You then said “I didn’t want to be the 50 year old trying to keep up with the 21 year old”, implying that her current behavior is leading her to become a 50 year old who parties like a 21 year old.
And honestly, it feels like your suggesting women should change their behavior and habits for their husband just because you did
It would explain why he downplays your relationship to his coworkers
How?
Oh girl it’s still 5 years? Let him go.
What are you looking for relationship advice on? For something you can do, or is your “friend” asking for input?
If it's the former, there's not much that you can do. He doesn't have to discuss it with you. This is even more relevant if your friend didn't even ask you to step at all. If it's the latter, then that's actually open to interpretation and more details would be needed like if he has a history of cheating.
“when we moved in together she'd tell me she was going to leave me or call the cops on me”
There's a way longer history going on here than just this trip.
OP listen to this comment. It won't get better. If he wanted to make it happen, he would have done it without you begging to be recognized. Agreed that is blame shifting instead of someone truly interested in building a life together with you.
Nah. If there are soulmates, a soulmate is someone you feel safe with, that makes you the best version of yourself. You are toxic to each other and possibly trauma bonded. Yes, you are so young and this is a great opportunity to learn how to be in a healthy relationship and improve as a person. I definitely recommend learning how to be comfortable with yourself and healing first. You got this. Block him on everything and spend time on healthy hobbies
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