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Keep hunting brother. There is a Princess out there looking for her Prince. Build your kingdom properly as it seems you are and she will come most likely when you least expect it.
There's never going to be a good moment, I'm afraid. You are just going to have to suck it up and tell him and stop making excuses for not doing so. Then it's on him whether he's there for his kid or not.
We had a solid foundation; we were in love, happy, and secure. We have always supported one another. We established two rules: always communicate with one another and always use protection – because we didn't want to complicate things with to many dos and don’t.
My brother in christ shes severely depressed and going through early menopause now that the hysterectomy has happened. Like you are describing clear cut depression. I dont see how you expected her to heal while also taking care of the house and 4 children thats a fulltime job in itself. You need to hire a cleaner and a therapist seriously.
“I'm not using you for sex. We haven't even had sex in 2 months, so How could I possibly be using you for sex? I simply have a sex drive, and it seems to me that you no longer do. Sex is important to me. Sex is important to most people. You even physically push me away even during making out, which really hurts my feelings and makes me feel pretty shitty. If sex isn't important to you, I don't think this relationship is going to work out, because it makes me feel like you just want to be friends with me.”
Honestly, she should see a doctor, because it sounds like her birth control has destroyed her sex drive–which is not uncommon. The fact that SHE has not already decided to do this on her own, though, makes me think that your sexual needs simply aren't important to her.
This is the ultimate red flag. He can’t want to suddenly change now because of you. That builds resentment, he will only do it for you and not for himself so if he has a trigger, especially from you, he can easily break down his coping skills since they may be centered around you. He needs to do all of this ALONE. I left my abusive ex 7 years ago after 1 year of trying to get him into therapy, get his life together, paying rent, etc. only to realize he was using me as a crutch and never actually wanted to change. 6 months is not long enough to potentially destroy your mental health and future to build this person up just because you see hope in him. He had 10 years to do this alone, he can do it again THE RIGHT WAY.
Far more likely it’s due to changes in her physiology than yours.
Noses and ears grow throughout one’s lifetime. ( That’s part of what makes old people look old.). Penises, not so much.
One possible exception to that is weight loss: reducing the fat pad in front of the pelvic bone can “un-bury” some amount of shaft length. Doesn’t change girth, though.
This guy has messed with my perception of right and wrong so badly that I can’t see clearly I don’t know if everything he said he true and I’m terrible or not?
I’m genuinely not joking can you please explain what you believe he did wrong or your perspective of the situation? Was it toxic I mentioned the word “guys before him” in my explanation of reflecting on my needs in a relationship?
I was thinking about that, was wanting to hold off until tomorrow. I can get in touch with the caretakers for the building then, and was hoping on getting advice on how to adress this with my neighbors. I can already be awkward in social situations, and the lack of sleep and stress make it harder still, so I am thankfull for some outsiders perspective.
Unless you want to be doing his buddy nightly, say no. The buddy lives with you so aren’t going to be able to treat this as a one-time experience.
If you decide to try a three-some, find someone that you don’t know well and use the three-some to have sex with someone who you find hotter than your husband. It will keep you motivated if you normally need an emotional connection with a partner.
Finally, if the two bros put too much pressure on you, tell them to get a room. If your husband’s sexual fantasy is so detailed that it requires his buddy to do the act, then the fantasy may be less about you and more about his buddy.
Well first of all definitely stop cooking for his diet. I am vegan and my partner is not but when I cook I cook vegan because well why would I cook two meals? Second he should and needs to learn. Third you should draw the line about eating out. Separate finances if they aren't already and if you don't feel like cooking for him then get yourself something to throw in the oven and if he wants to spend HIS disposable income on takeout he's welcome to
I think the challenge here is just that you aren't a kid anymore; you're an independent adult, and so your relationship with your mom will be different. She isn't going to put you ahead of her other plans or friendships the way she would if you were little
It'll take time, but you'll get in the groove. Save that $$!
Personally I think you are far too young to be settling for a long term relationship that is not meeting your needs sexually. So it will either have to be improved on his end or it may need to be someone else that you have in your life that meets that.
You can carry on as you are for another few months or years but that issues remaining unaddressed will more likely than not lead to the end of the relationship anyway
I get that it is a shit situation and it must feel awful to both feel like you are the only one that initiated it and then sometimes you get turned down too, that must be awful for you, especially at your age
Thanks for the advice even though I feel kind of silly now, having a few outside perspectives really helped me get my thoughts in order. My boyfriend and I had a conversation about everything that happened and what we can both do for each other. I apologised for being so abrasive about it and he apologised for making me feel taken for granted and we decided that we’re going to sit down and properly delegate our time and focus on communicating with each other so it doesn’t get to this point again. I was a little nervous about posting this in the first place but now I’m glad I did.
Keep hunting brother. There is a Princess out there looking for her Prince. Build your kingdom properly as it seems you are and she will come most likely when you least expect it.
There's never going to be a good moment, I'm afraid. You are just going to have to suck it up and tell him and stop making excuses for not doing so. Then it's on him whether he's there for his kid or not.
Get some self respect man. She's not the one.
We had a solid foundation; we were in love, happy, and secure. We have always supported one another. We established two rules: always communicate with one another and always use protection – because we didn't want to complicate things with to many dos and don’t.
My brother in christ shes severely depressed and going through early menopause now that the hysterectomy has happened. Like you are describing clear cut depression. I dont see how you expected her to heal while also taking care of the house and 4 children thats a fulltime job in itself. You need to hire a cleaner and a therapist seriously.
I feel like she did it on purpose to trap me.
How did she manipulate your condoms? Or were you just relying on her using bc?
“I'm not using you for sex. We haven't even had sex in 2 months, so How could I possibly be using you for sex? I simply have a sex drive, and it seems to me that you no longer do. Sex is important to me. Sex is important to most people. You even physically push me away even during making out, which really hurts my feelings and makes me feel pretty shitty. If sex isn't important to you, I don't think this relationship is going to work out, because it makes me feel like you just want to be friends with me.”
Honestly, she should see a doctor, because it sounds like her birth control has destroyed her sex drive–which is not uncommon. The fact that SHE has not already decided to do this on her own, though, makes me think that your sexual needs simply aren't important to her.
Sounds like you’re Gna sit tight and take another few months of abuse.
This is the ultimate red flag. He can’t want to suddenly change now because of you. That builds resentment, he will only do it for you and not for himself so if he has a trigger, especially from you, he can easily break down his coping skills since they may be centered around you. He needs to do all of this ALONE. I left my abusive ex 7 years ago after 1 year of trying to get him into therapy, get his life together, paying rent, etc. only to realize he was using me as a crutch and never actually wanted to change. 6 months is not long enough to potentially destroy your mental health and future to build this person up just because you see hope in him. He had 10 years to do this alone, he can do it again THE RIGHT WAY.
it really sucks, i really wish therapy, anger management class, and medication could help him.
Celebrate your success with your friends. Maybe consider forming a new family that values you, and returns the love you put out into the world?
I don't know his family, the only one that I do know is his ex, we are in long distance. I can only tell her. Should I?
It almost like he's never seen a map of the US. Didn't you know everyone in California knows each other
Far more likely it’s due to changes in her physiology than yours.
Noses and ears grow throughout one’s lifetime. ( That’s part of what makes old people look old.). Penises, not so much.
One possible exception to that is weight loss: reducing the fat pad in front of the pelvic bone can “un-bury” some amount of shaft length. Doesn’t change girth, though.
This guy has messed with my perception of right and wrong so badly that I can’t see clearly I don’t know if everything he said he true and I’m terrible or not?
I’m genuinely not joking can you please explain what you believe he did wrong or your perspective of the situation? Was it toxic I mentioned the word “guys before him” in my explanation of reflecting on my needs in a relationship?
I was thinking about that, was wanting to hold off until tomorrow. I can get in touch with the caretakers for the building then, and was hoping on getting advice on how to adress this with my neighbors. I can already be awkward in social situations, and the lack of sleep and stress make it harder still, so I am thankfull for some outsiders perspective.
Unless you want to be doing his buddy nightly, say no. The buddy lives with you so aren’t going to be able to treat this as a one-time experience.
If you decide to try a three-some, find someone that you don’t know well and use the three-some to have sex with someone who you find hotter than your husband. It will keep you motivated if you normally need an emotional connection with a partner.
Finally, if the two bros put too much pressure on you, tell them to get a room. If your husband’s sexual fantasy is so detailed that it requires his buddy to do the act, then the fantasy may be less about you and more about his buddy.
Y’all won’t work but ok
Well first of all definitely stop cooking for his diet. I am vegan and my partner is not but when I cook I cook vegan because well why would I cook two meals? Second he should and needs to learn. Third you should draw the line about eating out. Separate finances if they aren't already and if you don't feel like cooking for him then get yourself something to throw in the oven and if he wants to spend HIS disposable income on takeout he's welcome to
Police. ASAP.
I think the challenge here is just that you aren't a kid anymore; you're an independent adult, and so your relationship with your mom will be different. She isn't going to put you ahead of her other plans or friendships the way she would if you were little
It'll take time, but you'll get in the groove. Save that $$!
Personally I think you are far too young to be settling for a long term relationship that is not meeting your needs sexually. So it will either have to be improved on his end or it may need to be someone else that you have in your life that meets that.
You can carry on as you are for another few months or years but that issues remaining unaddressed will more likely than not lead to the end of the relationship anyway
I get that it is a shit situation and it must feel awful to both feel like you are the only one that initiated it and then sometimes you get turned down too, that must be awful for you, especially at your age
Thanks for the advice even though I feel kind of silly now, having a few outside perspectives really helped me get my thoughts in order. My boyfriend and I had a conversation about everything that happened and what we can both do for each other. I apologised for being so abrasive about it and he apologised for making me feel taken for granted and we decided that we’re going to sit down and properly delegate our time and focus on communicating with each other so it doesn’t get to this point again. I was a little nervous about posting this in the first place but now I’m glad I did.
U lasted quite long I must say. Hope she can take the ending with respect