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Iikkrrr??? Like I tried to talk about it while not being aggressive she literally started to cry. I literally just wanted to have a normal conversation. I think she's bullshiting me
Holy shit you are being a horrible sibling and person to her in this story. Move on and leave your poor sister alone. Quit being so ignorant and bigoted.
Even Kylie Jenner doesn’t look like Kylie Jenner. My husband and I were laughing last week at a picture of the Kardashians before they were famous and none of them look remotely like they do now. All surgery and plastic.
I think you put enough into this. Now it’s time to get the lawyer to get the papers ready. Your wife is an alcoholic and a cheater. Is that how you want to spend the rest of your life.???
I once had someone twice my age(I was underage, like 17) only quit flirting with me at work after I told them “I’m waiting till marriage”. I told him no several times through the course of a month, but this was what pissed him off and made him stop.
Add me to Team “Ewww. No”. He's almost old enough to be her grandfather and it will get in the way of her development. Will she still be hanging around people her own age, doing things she enjoys, will she bring him out to meet her friends? How long before her social life shrinks?
They are two consenting adults though. Hopefully it's mutually beneficial and she doesn't end up being a nurse and a purse as he gets older.
Are you married ? If not you cut bait and love on.
Who needs unecessary drama sprinkled with inability to communicante and stuffing of shadyness.
There were red flags you pointed out and instead of sitting down and discussing and giving you insurance or proof he went on full darvo and gaslight. Do you really need that in your life ?
Either he did something Very wrong and you don't want that, either he did not and then he is so bad at communication (and frankly disrespectful when talking of you) that you don't want that in your life either.
My take : unless he gave you proof of love (love is not words only actions) he really is here for your tits or at least doesn't mind trying to touch others
You know blackmail is a crime right? Who's going t9 randomly blackmail you and your gf because of an old porn video somewhere? How valuable could that be?
Don't stay in an unhappy marriage. If you can be happy alone that is so much healthier for your son to see. And as to the bumble thing? It's a dating app! No one in a relationship gets a dating app secretly without at least thinking about cheating. Don't entertain it.
Also, you have a one year old child, it is normal to have a decreased libido when you have a baby. But I do think your unhappiness is important and definitely playing a part in it. You deserve to feel happy OP.
When he was 15, a girl accused your boyfriend of rape. He was arrested, held, and then what? Found guilty?
Who removed him from his home? A judge?
Boyfriend says the accuser was lying, and who supports this? If boyfriend was found guilty, then I would believe the courts and not the boyfriend.
If the accuser dropped the charges and boyfriend was not found guilty, it’s a little more complicated as to who is telling the truth.
—- end of the day, you have to do what is best for your well-being in this moment. I’d probably take a week off from boyfriend. Text him that you need some space. See if he respects your decision.
His ex and the mutual friend described him as immature and it is likely he may want a wife for the social aspect as marriage is seen as a big “necessity ” in our culture. He said he was loyal and wanted to make it work, but the ex was reluctant and wanted divorce for years. He wanted kids but she didn’t want kids with him…
It sounded like the marriage to his ex benefited him more than her, that he got support establishing himself and sounds like he understands marriage needed priority. Because his financially ok he gets a lot of women interested but I think he wants the creme of the crop.
Yeah she invited me, plus they're meeting at a public spot. She's not cheating or anything it's just some casual meet up and yeah I'd feel scared of something bad about what happened that's all
Your sister is weaponizing her being a trans female. Maybe she is doing it for her own validation but that doesn't make it ok. She's using being trans to try to manipulate you for her own gain and satisfaction. If she isn't in therapy then she should be so she can learn healthy ways to cope with her changes and to feel validated without hurting and alienating her family simple for not getting her way.
Absolutely do not give him what he wants and ditch your friends. They've done nothing to deserve this. You don't need to deal with him being uncomfortable. That's something he needs to work through. Not you.
There’s definitely hope here, but it’s hope for you and not for the relationship. You know this relationship is over, and you know you need to get out. Go find someone who doesn’t speak to you like this. There are plenty of men who don’t name call and insult their partners during arguments. You have a good head on your shoulders and a good perspective of this situation.
They’re gonna play beach? Why not just gift wrap her? I would be there every game I could to “show her my support.”
As someone has suggested she does things that she knows would upset her if you did them but she does them anyway (the party til 4 am)?? That is a sign of a lack of empathy which is a characteristic of a cheater, just saying.
Who are you to tell her… You are her bf correct? She knows how you feel and want and does what she wants…sounds like a narcissist, you may want to move on before you become even more invested in this relationship!
Grandma was a hippie! Make love not war power!
Wtf did I just read?
Yeah it's always the guys fault right? ?
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Iikkrrr??? Like I tried to talk about it while not being aggressive she literally started to cry. I literally just wanted to have a normal conversation. I think she's bullshiting me
I don’t even think I mind him being in the same room. It’s the waiting for me to be asleep that really confused me
Holy shit you are being a horrible sibling and person to her in this story. Move on and leave your poor sister alone. Quit being so ignorant and bigoted.
Even Kylie Jenner doesn’t look like Kylie Jenner. My husband and I were laughing last week at a picture of the Kardashians before they were famous and none of them look remotely like they do now. All surgery and plastic.
I think you put enough into this. Now it’s time to get the lawyer to get the papers ready. Your wife is an alcoholic and a cheater. Is that how you want to spend the rest of your life.???
I once had someone twice my age(I was underage, like 17) only quit flirting with me at work after I told them “I’m waiting till marriage”. I told him no several times through the course of a month, but this was what pissed him off and made him stop.
Add me to Team “Ewww. No”. He's almost old enough to be her grandfather and it will get in the way of her development. Will she still be hanging around people her own age, doing things she enjoys, will she bring him out to meet her friends? How long before her social life shrinks?
They are two consenting adults though. Hopefully it's mutually beneficial and she doesn't end up being a nurse and a purse as he gets older.
Are you married ? If not you cut bait and love on.
Who needs unecessary drama sprinkled with inability to communicante and stuffing of shadyness.
There were red flags you pointed out and instead of sitting down and discussing and giving you insurance or proof he went on full darvo and gaslight. Do you really need that in your life ?
Either he did something Very wrong and you don't want that, either he did not and then he is so bad at communication (and frankly disrespectful when talking of you) that you don't want that in your life either.
My take : unless he gave you proof of love (love is not words only actions) he really is here for your tits or at least doesn't mind trying to touch others
You know blackmail is a crime right? Who's going t9 randomly blackmail you and your gf because of an old porn video somewhere? How valuable could that be?
Don't stay in an unhappy marriage. If you can be happy alone that is so much healthier for your son to see. And as to the bumble thing? It's a dating app! No one in a relationship gets a dating app secretly without at least thinking about cheating. Don't entertain it.
Also, you have a one year old child, it is normal to have a decreased libido when you have a baby. But I do think your unhappiness is important and definitely playing a part in it. You deserve to feel happy OP.
Can I try and get some facts straight?
When he was 15, a girl accused your boyfriend of rape. He was arrested, held, and then what? Found guilty?
Who removed him from his home? A judge?
Boyfriend says the accuser was lying, and who supports this? If boyfriend was found guilty, then I would believe the courts and not the boyfriend.
If the accuser dropped the charges and boyfriend was not found guilty, it’s a little more complicated as to who is telling the truth.
—- end of the day, you have to do what is best for your well-being in this moment. I’d probably take a week off from boyfriend. Text him that you need some space. See if he respects your decision.
His ex and the mutual friend described him as immature and it is likely he may want a wife for the social aspect as marriage is seen as a big “necessity ” in our culture. He said he was loyal and wanted to make it work, but the ex was reluctant and wanted divorce for years. He wanted kids but she didn’t want kids with him…
It sounded like the marriage to his ex benefited him more than her, that he got support establishing himself and sounds like he understands marriage needed priority. Because his financially ok he gets a lot of women interested but I think he wants the creme of the crop.
Yeah she invited me, plus they're meeting at a public spot. She's not cheating or anything it's just some casual meet up and yeah I'd feel scared of something bad about what happened that's all
Omg that's just unlocked a whole bunch of teenage drinking memories and of guys being all weird about me drinking pints.
Your sister is weaponizing her being a trans female. Maybe she is doing it for her own validation but that doesn't make it ok. She's using being trans to try to manipulate you for her own gain and satisfaction. If she isn't in therapy then she should be so she can learn healthy ways to cope with her changes and to feel validated without hurting and alienating her family simple for not getting her way.
Absolutely do not give him what he wants and ditch your friends. They've done nothing to deserve this. You don't need to deal with him being uncomfortable. That's something he needs to work through. Not you.
Thank you for your advice, good luck to you as well in life.
Nah this dude is just a lazy piece of shit trying blame his ADHD to cover it up. It won't get better
There’s definitely hope here, but it’s hope for you and not for the relationship. You know this relationship is over, and you know you need to get out. Go find someone who doesn’t speak to you like this. There are plenty of men who don’t name call and insult their partners during arguments. You have a good head on your shoulders and a good perspective of this situation.
They’re gonna play beach? Why not just gift wrap her? I would be there every game I could to “show her my support.”
As someone has suggested she does things that she knows would upset her if you did them but she does them anyway (the party til 4 am)?? That is a sign of a lack of empathy which is a characteristic of a cheater, just saying.
Who are you to tell her… You are her bf correct? She knows how you feel and want and does what she wants…sounds like a narcissist, you may want to move on before you become even more invested in this relationship!