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Had a friend who did this. Made up a very detailed past of relationships, talking about his excessive “hoe-phases” and even cried about having been in abusive relationships.
Suddenly one night he got laid and completely changed his tune and admitted to me that everything of his past was a lie.
He was a Virgin the whole time. He claimed he didn't want to admit to it until he got laid for real… we're no longer friends cause it was just a fucked up level of commitment to lying for years.
This is his true personality coming out. Why do you think he'd suddenly start acting nicer? What makes you think he'll become a better person if you stay with him? Even worse, because you are tolerating this behavior, you're showing him that you're OK with it, and you'll be giving him that message as long as you stay with him.
He's shown you his real personality. He's demonstrating in front of you, through his actions, the kind of person he is. Ask yourself, why are you tolerating this?
Yes, he needs to ask. Anal is different from PIV sex, and not preparing for it can lead to a lot of complications. Plus, he placed his dirty penis back inside of your vagina, which can lead to infections if you didn't clean up properly. Plus, what if you didn't want anal in the first place? Forcing it on you is assault. Tell him in earnest that what he did was wrong and that he shouldn't be doing acts without your permission anymore. He crossed a lot of boundaries and should be ashamed of his actions. If he won't take your requests seriously, then end the relationship
At the moment I’m not sure I quite trust her. She hasn’t acted differently with how she treats me directly. She still has kissed me and cuddled me. I’m very worried though that if I confront her she might lie about it and simply delete the messages.
I’m very happy for you that you are making such healthy changes for yourself!
Your relationship does sound pretty fundamentally unhealthy and toxic. I’m sorry that she seems to be actively sabotaging your efforts to change and grow. The relationship is not salvageable because relationships are supposed to be a source of mutual happiness, support, trust, and love. This one is not.
But in the end, it doesn’t matter if outsiders like myself think it is toxic. What matters is that you feel unsupported by this person who is supposed to love you and care about your wellbeing. The relationship is not salvageable if you feel that it is toxic for you.
Never stay in a relationship with the expectation that the person you are with will change. If you feel unsupported, unhappy, or unloved by her now, then do not expect her to suddenly decide to start being supportive later. The relationship is not salvageable because the person who you are now and the person who she is now are not compatible—she is looking for someone with whom to have her idea of “fun”; you are looking for someone to love and support you through a difficult transition.
And why exactly does he deserve a second chance? Unless he is like heaven’s incarnate on earth, you need to absolutely dump this boy, and figure out where you left your self-respect.
I'm glad you are seeing a therapist. He does go through it with you. He may benefit also from therapy. You can't place on blame him. But my sympathies and i think you should go to see other more knowledgeable doctors who may rid you if some of the uti s and other infections.
Your comment makes 0 sense: “You are young and single. ” Right……
“Do not dim your light for him. If he is your soul mate, he wouldn't want you to give up good opportunities for him.”
Again that's disingenuous, not everyone wants to uproot their entire life for someone nor wanna do 15 hour long distance….. This also puts everything on him like he is the only one that has to make sacrifices, but OP should not make any…..
I agree that she should go for career, but some of the things said here are just really disingenuous
As the person in this situation that relates to him, therapy. For himself and if you’re comfortable then couples. Something that really helped me not get defensive was using I statements. “I don’t appreciate when I ask for the dishes to be done and they aren’t” for example. “I don’ feel heard when I try to communicate my feelings and I end up feeling unheard as an effect of the shutting down” as opposed to “i dont feel heard by YOU when YOU shut down” etc.
I get what you say! I am not looking into getting back with him just to have a baby, I’m just in shock about this and I feel like I was never enough for him to have a baby with me. I know going back to him would only lead to the worse, but I can’t stop thinking of what could’ve been.
Have you told your GF how you really feel? You can't expect her to change anything if you keep on going along with the situation as much as she goes along with her mothers every request.
Had a friend who did this. Made up a very detailed past of relationships, talking about his excessive “hoe-phases” and even cried about having been in abusive relationships.
Suddenly one night he got laid and completely changed his tune and admitted to me that everything of his past was a lie.
He was a Virgin the whole time. He claimed he didn't want to admit to it until he got laid for real… we're no longer friends cause it was just a fucked up level of commitment to lying for years.
Don't have children with this passive aggressive abuser.
You heavily wasting your time with b, shit you wasted 8 yrs just to get this answer lol
You are 18. Don’t get stuck in a relationship with someone who doesn’t put in the same effort. Dump the dick and move on.
This is his true personality coming out. Why do you think he'd suddenly start acting nicer? What makes you think he'll become a better person if you stay with him? Even worse, because you are tolerating this behavior, you're showing him that you're OK with it, and you'll be giving him that message as long as you stay with him.
He's shown you his real personality. He's demonstrating in front of you, through his actions, the kind of person he is. Ask yourself, why are you tolerating this?
No.
Yes, he needs to ask. Anal is different from PIV sex, and not preparing for it can lead to a lot of complications. Plus, he placed his dirty penis back inside of your vagina, which can lead to infections if you didn't clean up properly. Plus, what if you didn't want anal in the first place? Forcing it on you is assault. Tell him in earnest that what he did was wrong and that he shouldn't be doing acts without your permission anymore. He crossed a lot of boundaries and should be ashamed of his actions. If he won't take your requests seriously, then end the relationship
The fiance beat him up and took them I assume. But this is fake anyway. lol
Do nothing for now. She might just be a genuinely great person.
At the moment I’m not sure I quite trust her. She hasn’t acted differently with how she treats me directly. She still has kissed me and cuddled me. I’m very worried though that if I confront her she might lie about it and simply delete the messages.
I’m very happy for you that you are making such healthy changes for yourself!
Your relationship does sound pretty fundamentally unhealthy and toxic. I’m sorry that she seems to be actively sabotaging your efforts to change and grow. The relationship is not salvageable because relationships are supposed to be a source of mutual happiness, support, trust, and love. This one is not.
But in the end, it doesn’t matter if outsiders like myself think it is toxic. What matters is that you feel unsupported by this person who is supposed to love you and care about your wellbeing. The relationship is not salvageable if you feel that it is toxic for you.
Never stay in a relationship with the expectation that the person you are with will change. If you feel unsupported, unhappy, or unloved by her now, then do not expect her to suddenly decide to start being supportive later. The relationship is not salvageable because the person who you are now and the person who she is now are not compatible—she is looking for someone with whom to have her idea of “fun”; you are looking for someone to love and support you through a difficult transition.
And why exactly does he deserve a second chance? Unless he is like heaven’s incarnate on earth, you need to absolutely dump this boy, and figure out where you left your self-respect.
I'm glad you are seeing a therapist. He does go through it with you. He may benefit also from therapy. You can't place on blame him. But my sympathies and i think you should go to see other more knowledgeable doctors who may rid you if some of the uti s and other infections.
Break up with your boyfriend, he deserves better
Your comment makes 0 sense: “You are young and single. ” Right……
“Do not dim your light for him. If he is your soul mate, he wouldn't want you to give up good opportunities for him.”
Again that's disingenuous, not everyone wants to uproot their entire life for someone nor wanna do 15 hour long distance….. This also puts everything on him like he is the only one that has to make sacrifices, but OP should not make any…..
I agree that she should go for career, but some of the things said here are just really disingenuous
As the person in this situation that relates to him, therapy. For himself and if you’re comfortable then couples. Something that really helped me not get defensive was using I statements. “I don’t appreciate when I ask for the dishes to be done and they aren’t” for example. “I don’ feel heard when I try to communicate my feelings and I end up feeling unheard as an effect of the shutting down” as opposed to “i dont feel heard by YOU when YOU shut down” etc.
I get what you say! I am not looking into getting back with him just to have a baby, I’m just in shock about this and I feel like I was never enough for him to have a baby with me. I know going back to him would only lead to the worse, but I can’t stop thinking of what could’ve been.
Have you told your GF how you really feel? You can't expect her to change anything if you keep on going along with the situation as much as she goes along with her mothers every request.