she's not really getting my gentle nudges in the direction of “thank you, but no thanks”
I've tried suggesting alternatives, mentioning that I might not be able to make it work, etc. and she just isn't getting it. I can sense her being really upset if I pull out of these plans completely
She is allowed to be upset. You are still allowed to say no.
“I've been trying to drop gentle hints, but honestly, Cersei, this isn't going to work for me. I hope you go and have a great time, but I am not going.”
Thank you for you’re response, it means a lot to hear someone else tell me that what I’m feeling is valid and what my “friends” are doing is wrong. There’s been a lot of me trying to discuss this and hearing that I should just keep my friends because I don’t have many.
A partner shouldn’t make you feel this drained. It’s totally normal to want some alone time, and if she can’t respect that and is making you this miserable, just end it. I saw in another comment you asked if these are valid reasons for ending a relationship – 100% yes.
The best thing to do when people Black mail with suicide is to call 911. If she really want to suicide you end up saving them. If she fake it then this will ensure she stop definitely.
I am so proud of you OP! You where a bit clueless in the beginning but you seems to make all the good decisions after reading all the advice from this sub. This is such a big learning/growing opportunity for you and you will develop tremendous self confidence/respect from this adventure ?
Right? This is why I was like 'waaaait a second, this seems oddly familiar'.
she's not really getting my gentle nudges in the direction of “thank you, but no thanks”
I've tried suggesting alternatives, mentioning that I might not be able to make it work, etc. and she just isn't getting it. I can sense her being really upset if I pull out of these plans completely
She is allowed to be upset. You are still allowed to say no.
“I've been trying to drop gentle hints, but honestly, Cersei, this isn't going to work for me. I hope you go and have a great time, but I am not going.”
Thank you for you’re response, it means a lot to hear someone else tell me that what I’m feeling is valid and what my “friends” are doing is wrong. There’s been a lot of me trying to discuss this and hearing that I should just keep my friends because I don’t have many.
He taught me how to be independent and I moved out of my abusive moms house
Don't expect to keep the relationship if you go traveling without her.
A partner shouldn’t make you feel this drained. It’s totally normal to want some alone time, and if she can’t respect that and is making you this miserable, just end it. I saw in another comment you asked if these are valid reasons for ending a relationship – 100% yes.
Relationships over man. Sorry.
The best thing to do when people Black mail with suicide is to call 911. If she really want to suicide you end up saving them. If she fake it then this will ensure she stop definitely.
I am so proud of you OP! You where a bit clueless in the beginning but you seems to make all the good decisions after reading all the advice from this sub. This is such a big learning/growing opportunity for you and you will develop tremendous self confidence/respect from this adventure ?