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Then don't date until you're able to trust again. It's not fair to require your partner to repair the damage your previous partner caused.
I notice that you never answered my question as to what you are doing to compromise here. She's changing her friendship dynamics for you. What are you doing to prevent yourself from holding her responsible for the wounds you suffered in the past? It's not her job to fix you. You do that on your own time.
It sucks, it does, I would be so hurt as well. I can tell how hurt you are while reading this. But they are kids, big kids, but kids. A lot of teens are assholes to their bio and step parents. They say things like “I hate you”. You can't take it personally. They are almost grown. You are in the homestretch. You will blink and they will be grown and out of the house. When my kid said “I hate you” I said, “you can hate me all you want, I am you (relationship here) and I will always love you”.
Your relationship with your wife is not the same as your relationship with them. At your age, you are about to be empty nesters. If you leave your wife, do it because you have fallen out of love with her, not because you (rightfully) feel rebuffed by the kids.
I do think family therapy would be good. You can express to them how hurt you are and how much you love them (though, you should do this with or without therapy, it's very important). Sometimes being open with young adults shakes them out of their jerkery. If not, at least you have said your piece. It's important when you love someone, you love them without conditions. If you love them without conditions, as they grow and become adults, they may come around on their own. If not, you have done all you can.
Also he is very social and intended on being friends, while I had to point out she very clearly still has feelings for him, which he was oblivious to. Just very charismatic and flirty personality.
That’s the problem he just says to them “ what do you mean” doesn’t really stand up for me as such and as for the tiktok it was one where a guy was eating a black banana and started retching (his mum finds people that wretch funny ) so I put it in there cause I thought she would find it funny but I put it in there at the wrong time obviously
When you become an adult and get into a relationship you have to realise there are boundaries. Would you want your gf to be very close with your best friend? Probably not. Yeah her friend can still hang out with you guys, but it doesn’t have to be all the time, and you don’t have to engage with your gf’s friend in the same way she does. You haven’t even known her friend for that long to be making this a big deal lol grow up. Don’t you have other friends? If it’s getting to you so bad, maybe you are afraid of falling for her friend. Focus on your gf ??♀️
I’m definitely voting on creep 100% but honestly even if his intentions are pure his actions are creepy so it doesn’t even matter. My great grandfather just passed and I loved that man with every fiber of my being but he definitely unintentionally creeped out the nurses on his way out. My parents tried the “he’s from a different era” argument but the moment I spoke with him about it he not only stopped flirting but thanked me for the honesty. His goal was to flatter them and the thought that anyone was even remotely uncomfortable was horrible to him. Your situation is definitely a lot trickier but if there’s an HR department I would definitely start there.
At least 1 extra term of school since not all credits would transfer, which means an extra $20-25k, and realistically we still wouldn’t see each other significantly more because of both of our busy schedules, but right now we only see each other when it fits in our schedules (sometimes weekly, other times not for over a month).
Then don't date until you're able to trust again. It's not fair to require your partner to repair the damage your previous partner caused.
I notice that you never answered my question as to what you are doing to compromise here. She's changing her friendship dynamics for you. What are you doing to prevent yourself from holding her responsible for the wounds you suffered in the past? It's not her job to fix you. You do that on your own time.
There is nothing you can do to “re-attract” her. There is no magic trick.
It sucks, it does, I would be so hurt as well. I can tell how hurt you are while reading this. But they are kids, big kids, but kids. A lot of teens are assholes to their bio and step parents. They say things like “I hate you”. You can't take it personally. They are almost grown. You are in the homestretch. You will blink and they will be grown and out of the house. When my kid said “I hate you” I said, “you can hate me all you want, I am you (relationship here) and I will always love you”.
Your relationship with your wife is not the same as your relationship with them. At your age, you are about to be empty nesters. If you leave your wife, do it because you have fallen out of love with her, not because you (rightfully) feel rebuffed by the kids.
I do think family therapy would be good. You can express to them how hurt you are and how much you love them (though, you should do this with or without therapy, it's very important). Sometimes being open with young adults shakes them out of their jerkery. If not, at least you have said your piece. It's important when you love someone, you love them without conditions. If you love them without conditions, as they grow and become adults, they may come around on their own. If not, you have done all you can.
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What is he doing? It is nude for us to gauge the appropriate action without that
Yeah, OP do this. If you send me the recipe, I’ll goof it up a bit for ya
Also he is very social and intended on being friends, while I had to point out she very clearly still has feelings for him, which he was oblivious to. Just very charismatic and flirty personality.
That’s the problem he just says to them “ what do you mean” doesn’t really stand up for me as such and as for the tiktok it was one where a guy was eating a black banana and started retching (his mum finds people that wretch funny ) so I put it in there cause I thought she would find it funny but I put it in there at the wrong time obviously
Yeah I think this can be a useful thing to keep in mind. I really appreciate your advice 🙂
When you become an adult and get into a relationship you have to realise there are boundaries. Would you want your gf to be very close with your best friend? Probably not. Yeah her friend can still hang out with you guys, but it doesn’t have to be all the time, and you don’t have to engage with your gf’s friend in the same way she does. You haven’t even known her friend for that long to be making this a big deal lol grow up. Don’t you have other friends? If it’s getting to you so bad, maybe you are afraid of falling for her friend. Focus on your gf ??♀️
I’m definitely voting on creep 100% but honestly even if his intentions are pure his actions are creepy so it doesn’t even matter. My great grandfather just passed and I loved that man with every fiber of my being but he definitely unintentionally creeped out the nurses on his way out. My parents tried the “he’s from a different era” argument but the moment I spoke with him about it he not only stopped flirting but thanked me for the honesty. His goal was to flatter them and the thought that anyone was even remotely uncomfortable was horrible to him. Your situation is definitely a lot trickier but if there’s an HR department I would definitely start there.
I'm white, so my opinion may not matter much. I'm pretty sure I'd lose my mind, though.
Context doesn't matter. Who it was intended for doesn't matter. He shouldn't be using racial slurs.
First thing I'd probably do is say “Excuse me?”, then I'd probably ask him why the hell he finds talking like that appropriate.
I am looking forward to the update, but her lack of seeing that she crossed a boundary is a bigger issue here.
At least 1 extra term of school since not all credits would transfer, which means an extra $20-25k, and realistically we still wouldn’t see each other significantly more because of both of our busy schedules, but right now we only see each other when it fits in our schedules (sometimes weekly, other times not for over a month).