I suggest thinking about the reasons for moving in. If the both of you are serious about your relationship and ready to move in together for all the right reasons, then go for it! Just remember to treasure what you have. Grass isn't always greener on the other side.
But if you are nervous, take moving in slow and start off with sleep overs and road trips alone together.
Sociopathy and psychopathy don't always equate to inherently bad people.
Rather than coming to Reddit to ask a bunch of armchair psychologists, some of whom likely just did a quick Google search, speak to a therapist to help sort your feelings and become informed about the condition. Ask questions about your children and the chances of inheriting it.
Go from there. Re-evaluate your relationship and figure out what is you want. Encourage him to seek treatment if he's not already.
Nah man, honestly I had to make the cut on a few friends that I would've liked to be at my wedding. I atill hang out with them, they invite me to their get togethers, we're all cool. Maybe there's something more to it than what you've shared here, but the story as told makes me feel like you should just listen to your partner.
It sounds like you should talk to him about it. Everyone grows up eventually you hope. Maybe this is it for him. You may find if you speak to him you can work out the thing in your mind that’s now making you hold back. Maybe it’s fear that he won’t commit because you’re older. Maybe it’s trying to work out what he sees in younger women. But either way he said he’s happy with you so this block is with you, and if you’re taking more chances that means giving a chance too. If after hashing it out you can’t move past it at least you gave it a go instead of backing off immediately, which it sounds like something you’ve done in the past and want to change.
Communication goes a long way and if she couldn't speak up when you were just dating, it would've been far worse in a relationship. Her lashing out because you couldn't read her mind. That'd be nothing but headaches. So I truly feel that you're better off. A better woman will come along. ❤️
Dude you need to prove intent for it to be sexual blackmail. OP taking pictures because she was panicked and couldn’t fully comprehend what she was seeing doesn’t mean she had intent to expose him. Chill tf out. Besides, she said they’re deleted now.
Do you have hobbies, job, school or friends of your own? Perhaps therapy?
Listen, worrying is normal – having it negatively impact you that you can't sleep or stress it out is not. She's her own person and not your child, there's always going to be something and you can't stick her in a box so nothing bad possibly happens.
Yes, I missed the signs. The partner didn’t bring up any issue. She blocked me and walked away. I only realized that the birthdate was a lie after I met the friend.
I think there are a lot of people on this site who makes excuses for abusive men, and a lot of people who have normal healthy relationships who have zero fucking clue what abuse can look like, especially in the beginning.
You need to point out to this guy that your nonstop efforts are the only reason he's able to pursue his dreams. Invite him to get a paying job and/or volunteer to do more childcare if he'd like you to have the time to workout.
Are you his meat ticket or something. Is there a vast difference in wealth here. So weird. Doesn’t sound like he has any interest in having sex with you. ???
The counseling will do better than any conjecture we could provide from this tiny glimpse into your state of mind. I hope it goes well for you.
? it’s crazy there are so many guys you didn’t give a chance and you dated this guy???♂️
I suggest thinking about the reasons for moving in. If the both of you are serious about your relationship and ready to move in together for all the right reasons, then go for it! Just remember to treasure what you have. Grass isn't always greener on the other side.
But if you are nervous, take moving in slow and start off with sleep overs and road trips alone together.
Sociopathy and psychopathy don't always equate to inherently bad people.
Rather than coming to Reddit to ask a bunch of armchair psychologists, some of whom likely just did a quick Google search, speak to a therapist to help sort your feelings and become informed about the condition. Ask questions about your children and the chances of inheriting it.
Go from there. Re-evaluate your relationship and figure out what is you want. Encourage him to seek treatment if he's not already.
/r/lostredditors
Nah man, honestly I had to make the cut on a few friends that I would've liked to be at my wedding. I atill hang out with them, they invite me to their get togethers, we're all cool. Maybe there's something more to it than what you've shared here, but the story as told makes me feel like you should just listen to your partner.
Thank you for your input. You are probably right.
“We both agreed any infidelity from one another would be a deal breaker.”
So, why haven’t you broken up with him?
It sounds like you should talk to him about it. Everyone grows up eventually you hope. Maybe this is it for him. You may find if you speak to him you can work out the thing in your mind that’s now making you hold back. Maybe it’s fear that he won’t commit because you’re older. Maybe it’s trying to work out what he sees in younger women. But either way he said he’s happy with you so this block is with you, and if you’re taking more chances that means giving a chance too. If after hashing it out you can’t move past it at least you gave it a go instead of backing off immediately, which it sounds like something you’ve done in the past and want to change.
Sure she can leafe what she can't do is ignoring his no and trying to undress him to a point were he had to run away from her for her to stop.
Communication goes a long way and if she couldn't speak up when you were just dating, it would've been far worse in a relationship. Her lashing out because you couldn't read her mind. That'd be nothing but headaches. So I truly feel that you're better off. A better woman will come along. ❤️
Dude you need to prove intent for it to be sexual blackmail. OP taking pictures because she was panicked and couldn’t fully comprehend what she was seeing doesn’t mean she had intent to expose him. Chill tf out. Besides, she said they’re deleted now.
He fucking did what?
Find a man who loves and respects you and isn't expecting you to be his sex doll, ESPECIALLY after surgery.
Do you have hobbies, job, school or friends of your own? Perhaps therapy?
Listen, worrying is normal – having it negatively impact you that you can't sleep or stress it out is not. She's her own person and not your child, there's always going to be something and you can't stick her in a box so nothing bad possibly happens.
Great approach!
Do you watch porn?
Yes, I missed the signs. The partner didn’t bring up any issue. She blocked me and walked away. I only realized that the birthdate was a lie after I met the friend.
Cut your losses and move on. Grow up a little too.
I think there are a lot of people on this site who makes excuses for abusive men, and a lot of people who have normal healthy relationships who have zero fucking clue what abuse can look like, especially in the beginning.
Not that it particularly matters, but are the big flaws fixable?
You need to point out to this guy that your nonstop efforts are the only reason he's able to pursue his dreams. Invite him to get a paying job and/or volunteer to do more childcare if he'd like you to have the time to workout.
Are you his meat ticket or something. Is there a vast difference in wealth here. So weird. Doesn’t sound like he has any interest in having sex with you. ???
I think you're looking at two problems here, most people are ignoring that.
First, your boyfriend is denying reality and ignoring you.
Second, he's making an important decision for your future relationship regarding using a motorcycle.
He's not able to have a conversation with you about it and just gets annoyed. That doesn't bode well for your future together.